Reply #11: I'm guessing that you knew he had no intention of staying sober [View All]

[KurtNYC]

he planned on drinking and drinking heavily. You may be angry not so much that he lied to you but that you knew it was a lie when you heard it. In my experience, people who drink (more than a little) and drive do it all the time. Once they get in an accident, they get a bigger car so that the next they drive drunk and hit something they are more protected. But my point is that this isn't something that just happens after a couple drinks becomes a couple more. People plan on driving drunk at the beginning of the evening while they are sober or weeks in advance when they buy the big drunk driving car.

You should be feeling whatever you are feeling -- you can't argue with or force feelings to change. You may have some greiving to do -- over the death of this friendship and the idea that you can't go out drinking with this friend again. Let that happen. Grief sucks but it won't last if you just go with it and let yourself fully process this change in your life.