Facebook etiquette crisis! Or, the past catches up with me...! [View All]

[MorningGlow]

Okay, :wtf: do I do now? An old friend (who, in truth, used to bug me but she was Mostly Harmless, just annoying) sent a friend request on FB. She must have looked me up specifically, because I don't have any friends on FB from that era of my life who we would have as "mutual friends".

I almost accepted her friend request, but first I looked at her list of friends. One of my ex boyfriends is on her list. Then I looked at HIS list of friends, and another ex boyfriend and another former friend are on HIS list. (Yeah, two exes that were friends. That era of my life was horribly incestuous--a group of friends that all worked retail together--it was like living a coming-of-age movie from the '80s or '90s. Fun and dramatic at the time, but not something you want to revisit 15 years later.)

Needless to say I'm seeing a vast downward spiral/vortex of "blast-from-the-pastness" opening up at my feet if I friend this chick, and I do NOT want to fall into that hellish option of reconnecting with all these people.

So what's the etiquette? If I don't friend the first chick, it'll look like I'm rejecting HER. But I'm not--I'm just avoiding the other people that spiral out from her. Or should I just get over myself, friend her, and refuse to care what my exes might think of me if they spot my comments on her posts?

Or should I just firebomb Facebook's headquarters and put us all out of our misery for inventing this social networking hell? :shrug: