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[CTLawGuy]

I think it is better to give the person your phone number rather than ask for theirs.

Asking for theirs puts them in an awkward situation if you misread them and they are really not interested in you.

Some may give you their real phone number:

then you call them and they make excuses about why they can't go out with you, so you keep waiting and asking, and they (surprisingly :eyes:) keep being busy. It's their hope that you will give up and get the "hint".

Others may give you a fake phone number:

so you get excited that you found someone you like and who likes you only to call and find out that you can't get in touch with them again, and then you think "gee, maybe they weren't really interested... but what if they just miscommunicated with you or just miswrote the number. Maybe if I go back to the same bar or club, ill find them again. And what if they think I'm not interested because they don't hear from me? Oh Jeez." So that leaves you wondering how you really stand with that person, and with a lot of stress.

A very few will refuse to give you the phone number (the correct course of action in this situation):

Some of this group will be nasty about it, and others will be nice and say "sorry, I'm not interested." However most people believe that this practice is mean and rude when it is in fact what you should do. So they do one of the other two options.


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If you give the person your phone number and say "call me", then if they truly are interested, they will call. If they are interested but don't want to call you, they will most likely offer their phone number.

If not interested, they will accept the phone number and say "thanks," and then never call you.

If they don't offer you theirs at that point, don't get your hopes up, but be happy if they do call.

The point is, not offering a phone number is easier for people than refusing a request to give a phone number.