Reply #13: Get professional help quickly - this guy will get worse with age. [View All]

[Divernan]

And since he's already so disturbed and has beaten you in the past, and since he literally "broke" into your grandmother's home (which is way beyond "rude"' ; it's criminal), chances are very good he is beating your stepbrother (how old is he?).

Step One - go to your grandmother's house or anywhere where you can make a private phone call, and look in the blue pages your phone book for a women's shelter/hotline. Start talking with them and they will tell you your options and give you the support you need to get strong enough to get out of this situation.

It sounds like your mother's family are all easily intimidated and easy victims for your stepfather. Whether they will ever be able to stand up for themselves is their individual problem. Your concern is YOU, and secondarily your stepbrother.

It's important that your stepfather not be alerted to any steps you take to free yourself from this situation, until you are ready to act. So keep this to yourself. If there is any chance your grandmother will tell your Mother or ANYONE else what she may hear you say on the telephone - do not call in front of her. You can make a very short call to a shelter and ask them where you can meet someone to talk.

Godspeed to you Peridot, and let us know what happens.
Nancy