Reply #200: "the addicted individual is not responsible at a certain point" [View All]

[ShortnFiery]

I agree to a certain point. The addicted individual is, however, the only one truly RESPONSIBLE for their own recovery. As a counselor, I can guide an already motivated individual, but without their DEEP DESIRE to stay on a path to recovery, they have NO chance in hell of ever even beginning a thoughtful path. And yes, it is their responsibility to want to get better. It is their responsibility to WANT to keep with a program. When they stumble and relapse, they do NOT deserve my scorn. However, it is THEIR RESPONSIBILITY to get back to a meeting and TRY to work their personal recovery program.

It's hard being a family member of someone who is addicted to any truly unhealthy substance. And yes, although I love him more than words can say, his recovery is "his responsibility" ... and yes, part of me is angry that he does not choose to help himself.

That does not make me a mean spirited asshole, only a loved one who's powerless to help another without their strong desire "work a recovery program." And as a loved one who suffers right along with the person who's addicted, I have "my own" recovery program that I must try to follow each and every day for the rest of my life.

I hope that clears up any misunderstandings?
I seriously doubt it - but at least I've given it my best try. :hi: