Reply #62: Let me explain it to you. [View All]

[Stephanie]

Men sometimes talk this way to women. Complete strangers will use this kind of language with us. Language that might be appropriate when used by a loved one, such as honey, is innappropriate when it's used in another context, such as by a boss or a catcalling construction worker. The difference is context. Men who use this type of language innappropriately will often defend it by saying they didn't mean anything by it, it's a term of affection, etc. I am providing an example to the poster of language that she's probably heard used towards herself, language that she's probably found offensive in certain circumstances, which is in and of itself innocous. I am hoping that when she remembers being in this sort of situation herself, she will understand a little bit more of where black people are coming from regarding the OP. Please let me know if you have any more questions.