Reply #53: I wish I could rec a comment. [View All]

[Firespirit]

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Well said.

This holds true for all relationships, too, not just romantic/sexual ones. I'm a Kinsey 4 with a minimal interest in sex, and it's even true for me.

Demeaning all women and blaming women for sexism because YOU cannot get a girlfriend is one surefire way to perpetuate your problem.

I can't speak for the OP, I prefer not to make a personal judgment on someone I haven't met, but I've observed that most "nice guys" are actually horribly sexist. They see women as things to be played, and all they have to do is push the right buttons. With an attitude like that, the women with self-respect will get away as fast as they can, and these guys are only going to be looking at the self-loathing faction of women. When faced with a macho bombastic douche who doesn't respect them and a feeble whiny douche who doesn't respect them, that group of women will of course go for the self-assured douche. The "nice guys" are playing a game they cannot win.