Reply #157: Thom, I will be in a similar dilemma Thanksgiving if DH has his way [View All]

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He wants us to host his family for Turkey Day, which to me is a secular holiday. When we go to holidays at some of his family members' homes, they make a big deal about praying, being RW fundies. I just stand quietly, respecting their wishes in their homes.

But I do not want that superstition in my house. DH, being the pushover he is, will not say anything so I will have to say something. While I do not care if I offend the RW fundie father, I am fond of DH's sister who is married to the prick. I am not terribly worried about their children - though they have been raised as fundies, they will have to learn to deal with people of other faith.

But I really love DH's mother and his other siblings and do not want to upset any of them. MIL is Unitarian. I am not sure if any of the other siblings go to church, though one may be Presbyterian. They never make a point about it and do not insist on public prayer for family gatherings.

I may take the suggestion someone in this thread had - do a secular thank you for the company and the food myself, taking the initiative away from the believers right away. My other choice is to invite some of my pagan friends and ask them to give a blessing - without giving away their beliefs in advance. :popcorn: