Reply #48: Thanks for that list. [View All]

[laundry_queen]

When my ex cheated, he did NONE of those things. He was very good at hiding it. Mind you, he's a narcissist, so he figured he was god's gift to women anyway and didn't need to shower any more than normal, or put on nicer underwear, or work out. He figured he was perfect as-is. LOL. Every hint I had was only clear in retrospect, nothing overt and definitely nothing on your list. I still had all his passwords, Visa accounts, bank statements, pay stubs etc etc, nothing strange at all - I even went over all the statements afterwards to see if there was something I had missed while this was all going on (I had a friend who found a $500 Coach purchase on her husband's visa, and she knew *she* didn't get any Coach for Christmas and that's how she found out). There was ZIP with my spouse. Not ONE thing. Of course, I now suspect he was getting his girlfriend to pay for everything and she was stupid enough to do it, LOL. They deserve each other.