Reply #280: It works the other way too [View All]

[thesquanderer]

re: "For some, it is that very objectification which is the turn on, that plus her humiliation, if possible."

That's true... but I don't know if that's always bad. All different kinds of things can excite people. There are plenty of people--both women and men--who get turned on by being dominant or submissive in the bedroom, where the objectification or even humiliation is indeed part of the excitement. (In some cases, these people are behaving opposite of how they do in their professional/public lives.) Do you think this is always wrong? Or is it okay if the man is submissive, but not if the woman is? Or...?