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nadine_mn (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 02:20 AM Original message |
How do you help a loved one who is an alcoholic |
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Oeditpus Rex (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 02:50 AM Response to Original message |
1. Sad to say, there really isn't much you can do |
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SPKrazy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 02:57 AM Response to Original message |
2. Go to Alanon |
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Maraya1969 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 05:01 AM Response to Reply #2 |
6. I second on Alanon. I've heard that when family members go to Alanon |
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Giant Robot (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 03:37 PM Response to Reply #2 |
24. "Committing" is unlikely |
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elleng (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 03:11 AM Response to Original message |
3. nadine; there ARE things you can do. |
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LeftyMom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 03:31 AM Response to Original message |
4. What Oedi said. |
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elleng (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 04:54 AM Response to Original message |
5. nadine, I've returned |
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nadine_mn (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 03:36 PM Response to Reply #5 |
23. Thank you for the links |
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elleng (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 08:15 PM Response to Reply #23 |
53. Glad info useful. |
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NMDemDist2 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 05:03 AM Response to Original message |
7. when I was drinking, booze was the solution and 'you people' were the problem |
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nadine_mn (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 02:34 PM Response to Reply #7 |
12. Thats what I am afraid of |
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Inchworm (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 05:27 AM Response to Original message |
8. Tell him you love him as often as you can |
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elleng (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 05:38 AM Response to Reply #8 |
10. I love you, Inchworm! |
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Inchworm (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 05:44 AM Response to Reply #10 |
11. awww, shucks |
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elleng (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 05:35 AM Response to Original message |
9. Intervention is possible |
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Phillycat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 02:41 PM Response to Original message |
13. There is nothing you can do. |
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nadine_mn (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 03:34 PM Response to Reply #13 |
21. I understand what you are saying about the disconnect |
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Phillycat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 03:44 PM Response to Reply #21 |
29. Certainly not! |
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Shell Beau (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 02:44 PM Response to Original message |
14. I have an uncle who is pretty much in the same boat. |
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Seeking Serenity (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 02:48 PM Response to Original message |
15. Keep reminding yourself |
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Iggo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 03:00 PM Response to Original message |
16. I've never been on your side of it. |
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nadine_mn (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 03:48 PM Response to Reply #16 |
31. Its so hokey but I just want him to know he is loved and is a good person |
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Deep13 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 03:01 PM Response to Original message |
17. Don't know that there is much you can do... |
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Iggo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 03:12 PM Response to Reply #17 |
19. Hmm... |
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TrogL (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 03:33 PM Response to Reply #17 |
20. You just can't leave it alone, can you? |
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Deep13 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 03:38 PM Response to Reply #20 |
25. I know exactly how they "work" and I am not going to argue this again. |
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Kajsa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 05:10 PM Response to Reply #25 |
47. NO, you don't know how 12 step programs work. |
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Phillycat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 03:45 PM Response to Reply #20 |
30. He really, really can't. |
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Seeking Serenity (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 03:36 PM Response to Reply #17 |
22. You're not a Scientologist by any chance, are you? (n/t) |
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Deep13 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 03:39 PM Response to Reply #22 |
26. No, I object to all cults. nt |
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Seeking Serenity (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 03:43 PM Response to Reply #26 |
28. Al-Anon is anything but a cult |
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Deep13 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 03:51 PM Response to Reply #28 |
33. I've argued all of this the last time someone had an alcoholic relative on this forum. |
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Seeking Serenity (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 03:56 PM Response to Reply #33 |
36. Well, if you've already argued your premise in other threads |
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nadine_mn (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 03:43 PM Response to Reply #17 |
27. I respectfully disagree |
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Deep13 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 03:55 PM Response to Reply #27 |
35. I wish you all the best. I hope your uncle stops his self-destruction. |
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Critters2 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 08:26 PM Response to Reply #35 |
54. I got better once I STOPPED seeing a shrink and started a 12-step program. |
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Oeditpus Rex (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 03:48 PM Response to Reply #17 |
32. Attention, all the millions who've been helped by AA and its 'satellite' groups: |
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Phillycat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 03:54 PM Response to Reply #32 |
34. Woo hoo! |
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Oeditpus Rex (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 03:57 PM Response to Reply #34 |
37. Your sobriety is all in your mind |
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Phillycat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 03:57 PM Response to Reply #37 |
38. You're right, I did it ALL BY MYSELF. |
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Oeditpus Rex (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 04:02 PM Response to Reply #38 |
39. I know! |
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Deep13 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 04:02 PM Response to Reply #32 |
40. That is such a logical fallacy it hardly needs to be explained, but here it goes. |
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Oeditpus Rex (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 04:23 PM Response to Reply #40 |
44. In other words |
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Dyedinthewoolliberal (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 07:26 PM Response to Reply #40 |
52. Are you an alcoholic? |
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KitchenWitch (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 04:06 PM Response to Reply #32 |
41. Kewl - I have always wanted to shoot heroin |
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Phillycat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 04:20 PM Response to Reply #41 |
43. I'll bring syringes, and a shoe to stare at! |
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Oeditpus Rex (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 04:25 PM Response to Reply #43 |
45. Better make it a boot |
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KitchenWitch (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 04:31 PM Response to Reply #43 |
46. AWESOME! |
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Iggo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Feb-23-08 01:52 PM Response to Reply #32 |
57. Excellent! |
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RetroLounge (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Feb-23-08 02:10 PM Response to Reply #17 |
58. God, it must REALLY suck to be you... |
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x-g.o.p.er (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 03:07 PM Response to Original message |
18. Until they want to help themselves, |
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KitchenWitch (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 04:10 PM Response to Original message |
42. I am also going to recommend Alanon |
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Kajsa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 05:20 PM Response to Original message |
48. I also suggest Al-Anon. |
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graywarrior (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 05:22 PM Response to Original message |
49. Yep, Al-Anon. |
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leftofthedial (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 05:28 PM Response to Original message |
50. it's up to him |
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Vinca (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 05:43 PM Response to Original message |
51. Your poor uncle is badly in need of help you probably can't give. |
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Critters2 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 08:27 PM Response to Original message |
55. I always refer parishioners in such situations to Al-Anon. |
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elleng (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 11:34 PM Response to Original message |
56. nadine and all, |
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Turbineguy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Feb-23-08 04:50 PM Response to Original message |
59. My friend was a drunk |
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