Reply #24: "Committing" is unlikely [View All]

[Giant Robot]

I am not sure about the laws in the OP's state, but in my state there is no such thing as "commitment" for alcoholism. The process of involuntary hospitalization specifically mentions that alcohol or substance abuse is not a reason for involuntary hospitalization. I suspect that things are pretty similar for that across the country.

If you are looking to force him into some type of treatment against his will, which may not be a bad idea but definitely NOT where I would recommend you start, is get him arrested for something, specifically when he is drunk. That gets him into the justice system, which again in my state not the OP's, tries hard to get alcoholics/drug users a way out at first, i.e. ordered treatment over jail. So if you know he is driving drunk, call the police. It sucks to do that but it is effective some times.

Alanon. Go and be open to the experience. That is my first (and probably the umpteenth for this thread) recommendation. Learn to care for yourself in this, it will be vital.

You certainly can confront him, if you feel comfortable. Maintain strong boundaries and be clear with him what they are, i.e. "If you continue yelling at me like that I will call the police." I would suggest you know where to go next, if he says, Yes I want help" so you are not stuck trying to figure out the next step and his resolve is melting away.

Learn to forgive yourself. Forgive your family too if you can.

Good luck, and if you need anything you can try to pm me.