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XanaDUer2

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Reply to Deuxcents (Reply #5)

Sun Mar 21, 2021, 04:03 PM

Mar 2021

Will do. Her husband can get even with me, though. I've never felt so powerless

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I'm being bullied at work [View all] XanaDUer2 Mar 2021 OP

go to HR. tell them u are retaining legal counsel and do that nt msongs Mar 2021 #1

I concur. Don't threaten. DO IT. hlthe2b Mar 2021 #7

Yes from me as well. AFTER you write down some notes. calimary Mar 2021 #24

YES! MEMOS for the record. Who, What was said, When, Where, Why (context) hlthe2b Mar 2021 #25

This too. In case you need one or more witnesses. calimary Mar 2021 #33

Phones are excellent recording devices these days, not only audio, but video. nt Blue_true Mar 2021 #80

I agree. The organization should be forced to live up to it's stated policy. nt Blue_true Mar 2021 #79

Thank you for confiding in us, XanaDUer2. Aristus Mar 2021 #2

thank you XanaDUer2 Mar 2021 #9

crazy Skittles Mar 2021 #3

Thanks, Skittles XanaDUer2 Mar 2021 #93

It could be the bully's husband has some clout with the company. thucythucy Mar 2021 #99

Can you record some of this abuse? Legal in your state? USALiberal Mar 2021 #4

This. Reader Rabbit Mar 2021 #28

Bullies are cowards Deuxcents Mar 2021 #5

Thank you XanaDUer2 Mar 2021 #8

He may try Deuxcents Mar 2021 #11

If he does, file a harassment suit against him mcar Mar 2021 #41

get this XanaDUer2 Mar 2021 #44

What? mcar Mar 2021 #46

I'm surrounded nt XanaDUer2 Mar 2021 #50

Electronic evidence sounds like the way for you to go. Or a different job. gldstwmn Mar 2021 #67

I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this Rorey Mar 2021 #6

Just quit and find another job MichMan Mar 2021 #10

Easy to say, but. . .have you noticed what has happened to our economy in the last four years? In niyad Mar 2021 #21

due to financial reasons XanaDUer2 Mar 2021 #29

I rather figured that. niyad Mar 2021 #31

oops sorry XanaDUer2 Mar 2021 #35

This is the cruelest part mcar Mar 2021 #43

Singing my song hamsterjill Mar 2021 #73

My sis is a retired HR professional mcar Mar 2021 #84

It's truly absurd. hamsterjill Mar 2021 #85

Document everything as you go. WhiskeyGrinder Mar 2021 #12

In my experience HR won't do anything. IcyPeas Mar 2021 #13

Her husband is a local big wig XanaDUer2 Mar 2021 #14

Listen. You ARE NOT SCREWED. Blue_true Mar 2021 #81

HR is there to protect the company, not the employees. Mr.Bill Mar 2021 #20

I will agree with this. "Hostile work environment" is a real thing. CaptainTruth Mar 2021 #34

Yup, speak their language BradAllison Mar 2021 #86

Yes... that's usually true Dorian Gray Mar 2021 #94

If you want to stay Eko Mar 2021 #15

You've gotten more responsible advice than I might have expected Hortensis Mar 2021 #16

I was "relieved of my contract renewal" at the mere request of a meeting with HR to talk. CoopersDad Mar 2021 #17

Document everything, record where possible and trust no one Under The Radar Mar 2021 #18

I'm glad you posted here too and I like the suggestions about documentation and Maraya1969 Mar 2021 #19

Good luck. Just so you know, SSDI takes two years without any income mahina Mar 2021 #22

One of the reasons I need to keep the job XanaDUer2 Mar 2021 #27

If you come to your boss with a copy of the book for her or him mahina Mar 2021 #59

Others have offered you some very good advice, and I hope it helps. I am glad that you know niyad Mar 2021 #23

There was a woman like that at my previous job. Buckeye_Democrat Mar 2021 #26

the middle of the room like, "Some people don't work hard here." I am at a higher level than she is luckone Mar 2021 #30

Thanks XanaDUer2 Mar 2021 #32

Take care luckone Mar 2021 #36

I'm sorry seta1950 Mar 2021 #49

Document, document, document. TygrBright Mar 2021 #37

As there are 41 states, plus DC, that are one-party consent states, BobTheSubgenius Mar 2021 #38

I think her boss is at a loss XanaDUer2 Mar 2021 #39

She should not go to HR without an attorney. Blue_true Mar 2021 #83

That is quite distressing. BobTheSubgenius Mar 2021 #103

Yes, it is. nt Blue_true Mar 2021 #104

Document everything, go to HR mcar Mar 2021 #40

Is everyone there afraid of the local politician ? JI7 Mar 2021 #42

yes, he's on our work screensavers XanaDUer2 Mar 2021 #47

1. LAWYER FIRST. Get a phone number and call in the morning FROM OUTSIDE the company. Tetrachloride Mar 2021 #45

Buy some mirror sunglasses. Tetrachloride Mar 2021 #52

I don't have any suggestions not already mentioned here, except ShazzieB Mar 2021 #48

Great advice so far. The only thing I can add is there is strength in numbers. Beastly Boy Mar 2021 #51

thanks, bizarrely I think due to her connections XanaDUer2 Mar 2021 #53

Put the complaint in writing to HR. Throck Mar 2021 #54

Definitely go to HR. Document everything they say and do. If it doesn't stop, report your ancianita Mar 2021 #55

Lawyer up. Go to HR. IN that order. PatrickforB Mar 2021 #56

I like this advice, as it's the same I gave to our oldest daughter when she was being bullied by a phylny Mar 2021 #77

I sympathize with you. Yavin4 Mar 2021 #57

I didn't read all the post yet, but simple solution. Dan Mar 2021 #58

She had better find out what the policy is on recording conversations etc. in the company. Liberal In Texas Mar 2021 #60

So sorry that you are having to deal with this. First thing-talk to a lawyer. Maybe more than one. 58Sunliner Mar 2021 #61

record the harassment whistler162 Mar 2021 #62

I feel for you IzzaNuDay Mar 2021 #63

I retired 3 years early, to escape a bully Siwsan Mar 2021 #64

Sorry to hear that. BTDT. It's amazing how so many people raccoon Mar 2021 #65

Cell phones can record everything these days. gldstwmn Mar 2021 #66

There is great advice all through this OP. Delmette2.0 Mar 2021 #68

Get a lawyer Soph0571 Mar 2021 #69

Think carefully about SSDI, it doesn't pay much, bullying Republicans think disabled people will Warpy Mar 2021 #70

If your state allows secret recording, I'd do that. If not, pull out a recorder or your phone & catbyte Mar 2021 #71

Seems to me given your job requirements Wash. state Desk Jet Mar 2021 #72

I feel for you. I've been bullied in a couple of my jobs. This thread Cafe Cat Mar 2021 #74

Imho, she's the problem, sure, but that sounds like a shitty place to work overall. Oneironaut Mar 2021 #75

2 approaches: 1.You may need to fight dirty with her, but it's risky. Ilsa Mar 2021 #76

How I handled a bully in the workplace megapuzzler Mar 2021 #78

EarlG can help you reactivate your old account if you reach out to him here: Brother Buzz Mar 2021 #88

thanks for the heads up and welcome back megapuzzler Mar 2021 #101

That's a wonderful story. NNadir Mar 2021 #102

I worked for a woman who I truly believe is mentally ill. hamsterjill Mar 2021 #82

Do this when others are within earshot. LuckyCharms Mar 2021 #87

Narcissists live to make others suffer I_UndergroundPanther Mar 2021 #89

You'll probably need a lawyer to get SSDI. See if the same one can help you with this. Patterson Mar 2021 #90

I've got a disability lawyrt XanaDUer2 Mar 2021 #92

Wow so sorry Meowmee Mar 2021 #91

My best and most realistic advice: Dorian Gray Mar 2021 #95

Great advice here, only one thing to add: GreenEyedLefty Mar 2021 #96

I am concerned EndlessWire Mar 2021 #97

Not certain how you feel about this, but UpInArms Mar 2021 #98

If it's legal to record - record. Document EVERYTHING. Then get a lawyer and go to HR CousinIT Mar 2021 #100