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shrike3

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81. I've had five -- so far -- male acquaintances turn out to be predators.

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Sun Jan 1, 2023, 04:04 PM

Jan 2023

Each time I was shocked. I'm not surprised the OP was surprised.

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Very distressing news. [View all] Not Heidi Dec 2022 OP

write him off. mopinko Dec 2022 #1

I wouldn't do anything until I was done having an emotional reaction. WhiskeyGrinder Dec 2022 #2

This....☝🏼 LakeArenal Dec 2022 #21

Same. nt pazzyanne Dec 2022 #46

If he's your "close friend" why hasn't he told you himself? FakeNoose Dec 2022 #3

Who among your close friends do you tell when you are committing a crime? Hekate Dec 2022 #8

mannersims are a tell but not always, too many were 'fine people and married", are among the worst Shellback Squid Jan 2023 #67

Do discuss your strange sexual kinks with your friends? Maru Kitteh Dec 2022 #12

Part ways. RandySF Dec 2022 #4

Ghost him Tree-Hugger Dec 2022 #5

Goddamn, that's tough! Haggard Celine Dec 2022 #6

Dear Not Heidi LuckyCharms Dec 2022 #7

Best answer yet Hekate Dec 2022 #10

Agree, best answer yet. jaxexpat Dec 2022 #51

So sorry that happened to you! Excellent reply. electric_blue68 Dec 2022 #60

Thank you, Lucky Not Heidi Jan 2023 #72

I'm sorry BlueWaveNeverEnd Dec 2022 #9

Yikes. That's a tough one. Ocelot II Dec 2022 #11

If he is a close friend I would ask to explain. He is not guilty until convicted. You never know.... walkingman Dec 2022 #13

agreed Skittles Dec 2022 #14

Yes, this I agree with.... Dan Dec 2022 #32

Agree 100% blueinredohio Dec 2022 #47

yeah Kali Dec 2022 #42

My sister's conversation with him was telling in this regard. Not Heidi Jan 2023 #73

I think some otherwise good people can have nearly uncontrollable sexual compulsions. femmedem Dec 2022 #15

Very well put Random Boomer Dec 2022 #43

Thank you. femmedem Dec 2022 #44

Sexual response isn't volitional Random Boomer Jan 2023 #65

Excellent deeply nuanced reply electric_blue68 Dec 2022 #61

another comment on my sister's conversation Not Heidi Jan 2023 #74

Ouch. femmedem Jan 2023 #79

Ghost him. Nothing to be gained by confronting him. Shrike47 Dec 2022 #16

He's been arrested but has not gone to trial? 70sEraVet Dec 2022 #17

This is the best reply here. TurboDem Dec 2022 #33

Welcome to DU, TurboDem! calimary Dec 2022 #37

Agreed n/t Not Heidi Jan 2023 #75

My Feelings as well BunnyMcGee Dec 2022 #54

Wow. electric_blue68 Dec 2022 #62

Sending you hugs MLAA Dec 2022 #18

Thank you, MMLA. n/t Not Heidi Jan 2023 #76

I have broken off friendships over lying? pwb Dec 2022 #19

I had a similar situation some years ago Saoirse9 Dec 2022 #20

Type your rant in a file if you are unable to cool down. Tetrachloride Dec 2022 #22

Dispose of this garbage and wish him the illest of wills. Lucky Luciano Dec 2022 #23

Hugs to you mvd Dec 2022 #24

A new year starts in a few hours. TNNurse Dec 2022 #25

Same here.... a former boss. viva la Dec 2022 #26

I'm sorry for your news Marthe48 Dec 2022 #27

This message was self-deleted by its author sl8 Dec 2022 #28

Are you sure that he's guilty? nt sl8 Dec 2022 #29

if he's really a good friend, you could talk to him and get his side of the story LymphocyteLover Dec 2022 #30

I think it is important to wait until the trial ends. What if he is not guilty? Maraya1969 Dec 2022 #31

+1 CloudWatcher Dec 2022 #34

Guess my answer would be something that was attributed triron Dec 2022 #35

You couldn't have thought of Not Heidi Jan 2023 #77

One of our friends killed himself before his trial. Hope22 Dec 2022 #36

Arrested isn't the same as convicted. Wait until the trial. housecat Dec 2022 #38

+1 and Jarqui Dec 2022 #48

yes "sleep on it" is generally good advice housecat Jan 2023 #71

my 2 cents... myohmy2 Dec 2022 #39

here's... myohmy2 Jan 2023 #68

Corrosive Not Heidi Jan 2023 #78

I don't believe yobrault1 Dec 2022 #40

This is a punch to the gut, but cyclonefence Dec 2022 #41

+1 femmedem Dec 2022 #45

I agree. Wednesdays Dec 2022 #50

Do nothing yet. Wait. TygrBright Dec 2022 #49

A very deep nuanced answer electric_blue68 Dec 2022 #63

Bright, my SIL is plying me with rum & cokes tonight, so bear that in mind... Hekate Jan 2023 #69

In the 1980s, I worked for a psychologist... TygrBright Jan 2023 #85

Oh Bright... Hekate Jan 2023 #86

And you, Hekate. You are a bright light here for many, including me. n/t TygrBright Jan 2023 #87

It's horrifying to hear this about someone who was or is in your life. Mother Of Four Dec 2022 #52

A Friend of mine and a man that I respected was grooming. PurgedVoter Dec 2022 #53

Not Heidi......... Upthevibe Dec 2022 #55

It's difficult to get your head around something like this when it happens IcyPeas Dec 2022 #56

I found out someone I have known for years was involved in the Insurrection. Initech Dec 2022 #57

A relative of my husband's was also at the rally. shrike3 Jan 2023 #82

Well according to the NY Times... Initech Jan 2023 #83

I've always assumed she went in the Capitol. shrike3 Jan 2023 #88

I'm sorry 🫂 Oneironaut Dec 2022 #58

Let the legal system deal with it and see what happens ? JI7 Dec 2022 #59

I'm so sorry that this has happened to you! I think wait and see till trial is over... electric_blue68 Jan 2023 #64

any inkling he was a pedo back when you knew him? Shellback Squid Jan 2023 #66

Personally, I doubt it Hekate Jan 2023 #70

I've had five -- so far -- male acquaintances turn out to be predators. shrike3 Jan 2023 #81

J. wasn't a "back when I knew him" friend. Not Heidi Jan 2023 #84

I've had male acquaintances turn out to be predators. Never friends. shrike3 Jan 2023 #80