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ForgedCrank

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24. Don't consider

Mon Jan 16, 2023, 02:18 PM

Jan 2023

this advice, I'm only stating how I think about such issues.
I removed myself and my feelings from these decisions and asked myself what the deceased would want.
It was their property, memories, life and relationships, not mine. The only thing that is important to me is doing what the deceased would have been happiest with.
This forced me to make some decisions that I disagreed with personally, but I rest easy knowing I fulfilled the wishes of the deceased to the best of my ability without any prejudices, and I did not allow my personal feelings to betray any of that. It's not easy, and it might irritate others in some cases, but I couldn't see any other way to do it and know it was right.

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Difficult family situation, regarding my recently deceased grandmother. [View all] Coventina Jan 2023 OP

You're not being unreasonable. How about you propose that Sky Jewels Jan 2023 #1

Was gonna say nearly the exact same thing Hugh_Lebowski Jan 2023 #7

Thanks Hugh. Coventina Jan 2023 #12

Maybe consider 'auctioning it' ... not for money, but pick some other thing you need help with Hugh_Lebowski Jan 2023 #20

I did that with a ring my mother in law left to me. Cracklin Charlie Jan 2023 #25

Can you will it to your sister? CottonBear Jan 2023 #2

My personal take: blm Jan 2023 #3

I mean, you could keep it for now, but leave it to her in *your* will. nt intrepidity Jan 2023 #4

Tell your sister you'll bequeath the locket to her daughter. n/t TygrBright Jan 2023 #5

Recommended. H2O Man Jan 2023 #6

Thanks, H20 Man. Coventina Jan 2023 #8

Glad to. H2O Man Jan 2023 #11

It needs to stay in the family so DURHAM D Jan 2023 #9

I went through this recently with my mother's watch. Croney Jan 2023 #10

What would your grandmother have wanted? GoCubsGo Jan 2023 #13

She definitely disapproved of the way my niece treated my sister. Coventina Jan 2023 #15

To me SickOfTheOnePct Jan 2023 #14

Because my niece has forbidden the people that she DOES communicate with Coventina Jan 2023 #18

She's your grandmother but your niece's great grandmother malaise Jan 2023 #16

At some point, H2O Man Jan 2023 #22

That's a better idea malaise Jan 2023 #26

Have you tried talking to your niece? cyclonefence Jan 2023 #17

She's forbidden anyone that has her contact info to give it to me. Coventina Jan 2023 #19

Well, in that case I think you should keep it cyclonefence Jan 2023 #27

If the niece wants it and the locket itself is neither here nor there for you, I can't see why she WhiskeyGrinder Jan 2023 #21

She has not expressed any interest in it. Coventina Jan 2023 #23

Don't consider ForgedCrank Jan 2023 #24