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Kaleva

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26. Grief and mental illness are not the same thing

Sun Aug 13, 2023, 12:39 PM

Aug 2023

The worst of mental illness can come on quickly and take hold. My wife can go from happy and cheerful to suicidal in a few hours. It's rare but has happened enough to where I'm always paying attention to her mood. 24/7. Sometimes a nap is all she needs to get past that. Other times she has had to be admitted for in patient treatment.

A neice recently lost her daughter to suicide. She was seemingly okay the day before her body was discovered the following morning.

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Dealing with mental illness: Two steps forward, one step back for a lifetime because we deserve it [View all] AZLD4Candidate Aug 2023 OP

You do not deserve pain and misery, I can tell by your writing that you are a thoughtful considerate Walleye Aug 2023 #1

Very well articulated. intrepidity Aug 2023 #2

I remember depression well... Joinfortmill Aug 2023 #3

Logged to to rec berniesandersmittens Aug 2023 #4

A big problem with mental illness is that the mentally ill dictate the treatment Kaleva Aug 2023 #5

I can tell you I wish that had been the case with the many times I sought help. It wasn't. OldBaldy1701E Aug 2023 #9

I understand it's an illness Kaleva Aug 2023 #11

As someone who lived with a bi-polar for 20 years DenaliDemocrat Aug 2023 #6

Yet, I use the word "normally." Exceptions to the rule are NOT the rule. AZLD4Candidate Aug 2023 #7

I don't believe what you describe is "normal" DenaliDemocrat Aug 2023 #15

Well, you have your opinion. I have medical science. AZLD4Candidate Aug 2023 #16

I wish I'd had that book years ago. BlackSkimmer Aug 2023 #18

Thank you. The lies and manipulative behavior are difficult to tolerate. Oopsie Daisy Aug 2023 #35

That book is about people with Borderline Personality Disorder. yardwork Aug 2023 #38

Bi-Polar almost always has a co-morbidity DenaliDemocrat Aug 2023 #48

Bi-Polar almost always has a co-morbidity DenaliDemocrat Aug 2023 #49

Do you mean Borderline Personality Disorder instead of Bi-Polar? yardwork Aug 2023 #39

She is bi-polar DenaliDemocrat Aug 2023 #45

I'm so sorry. yardwork Aug 2023 #46

Not an ex DenaliDemocrat Aug 2023 #47

HAH! OldBaldy1701E Aug 2023 #8

pro tip if you have a friend who suffers from mi- mopinko Aug 2023 #10

Unfortunately, they often reject the help offered Kaleva Aug 2023 #12

i saw this on fb the other day. it's about grief, but the same cld b said for mi- mopinko Aug 2023 #19

Grief and mental illness are not the same thing Kaleva Aug 2023 #26

of course not. but the problem of not knowing how to help, mopinko Aug 2023 #27

I think your post provided great insights on helping those in grief. Kaleva Aug 2023 #32

did u miss the part that i suffer from depression? mopinko Aug 2023 #33

Clinical depression cannot be helped by offers of help Kaleva Aug 2023 #43

Not at all the same thing. BlackSkimmer Aug 2023 #28

True. Oopsie Daisy Aug 2023 #36

Jeez, I wish I were a healer..... Karadeniz Aug 2023 #13

Well said wendyb-NC Aug 2023 #14

Thank you MAJones Aug 2023 #17

Not unlike an LSD trip unless you have been there you cannot understand. twodogsbarking Aug 2023 #20

One hell of a good post. n/t LuckyCharms Aug 2023 #21

"cymbalta, paxil, trazodone, and ativain" Sympthsical Aug 2023 #22

Yes, I'm no doctor, but that looks to be a troublesome cocktail. BlackSkimmer Aug 2023 #23

I just finished an extensive pharmacology program Sympthsical Aug 2023 #24

I've got no background in pharmacology or medicine, but even I was familiar with those drug names. BlackSkimmer Aug 2023 #25

I think that too. unforunately, that's how mental health works AZLD4Candidate Aug 2023 #30

Sound advice. Oopsie Daisy Aug 2023 #37

Books help me. nt BWdem4life Aug 2023 #29

Since she was 17, my daughter has been diagnosed as schizoaffective: schizophrenia & bipolar. elocs Aug 2023 #31

omg. that's hideous. mopinko Aug 2023 #34

I have a broken relationship with my father, but he was abusive even into adulthood AZLD4Candidate Aug 2023 #41

i absolutely understand that. mopinko Aug 2023 #42

I'm sorry that you're in so much pain. yardwork Aug 2023 #40

I'm bipolar too, and recently went through a depression. crosinski Aug 2023 #44