In another thread, one about extremes of weather, I noticed

[Dem2theMax]

55. I never wanted to have children. (A bit off topic.)

I am adopted. (Purchased at birth.) I've spent my entire life dealing with the trauma that being adopted brings to adoptees. It never goes away. I just spent one and a half years in adoption trauma therapy. For the first time in my life, I know who I am. All the pieces actually came together in the past week. I will be 68 in a few months.

My adoptive parents never should have been allowed to adopt. I watched them and their parenting examples, and knew I never wanted to be like them. And I was afraid that I would be, so I made the decision at a very young age to never have my own children, and to never adopt.

As I grew up and watched all the horrors in this world, I was even more determined to not bring any children into it. I was constantly pressured by family and friends as to when I would have kids. Never gave in.

It's taken me my entire life to find me. Not having children is not a loss. Not knowing who you are, is.

(For anyone who is interested, if you want to know more about adoption trauma, read a book called 'The Primal Wound.' It's a good place to start. Especially if you are an adoptee, or have adopted someone.)