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lapislzi

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77. Make up your mind about your own behavior.

Fri Mar 15, 2013, 12:55 PM

Mar 2013

If your door and snow removal assistance is gender-based, you are probably a sexist. If you are an equal-opportunity assister, you may be a sexist, but at least you're polite.

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Things I've learned on DU - Part 1 - It is 'SEXIST' to hold a door open for a women [View all] Fix The Stupid Mar 2013 OP

You can "learn" a lot of things at DU that just aren't so. Buzz Clik Mar 2013 #1

Nonsense. It is never sexist to assist someone MineralMan Mar 2013 #2

if you do it for everyone, or randomly, then it's not sexist unblock Mar 2013 #21

Yes. I think I said that in my post. nt MineralMan Mar 2013 #22

Wait a second. lapislzi Mar 2013 #3

This message was self-deleted by its author ChisolmTrailDem Mar 2013 #12

Thats absurd. Fix The Stupid Mar 2013 #24

So it's not just women? lapislzi Mar 2013 #48

He's not the only DUer who thinks the labelling of opening doors for women kestrel91316 Mar 2013 #67

Believe it or not, I do get this. lapislzi Mar 2013 #81

you might actually learn what benevolent sexism is and understand the concept, and why it is harmful seabeyond Mar 2013 #4

Oh but it is ever so much more fun to get defensive and kneejerkingly throw out redqueen Mar 2013 #10

yup. and it take little to no work. certainly no thinking involved. lol. so much easier. nt seabeyond Mar 2013 #16

I would go out of my way to make the door close on your face. Ian David Mar 2013 #14

wow. ok. whatever. nothing like a little hostility going on because someone suggests seabeyond Mar 2013 #17

+100 lumberjack_jeff Mar 2013 #32

This is funny. Men, once again, not voting their best interests galileoreloaded Mar 2013 #79

You are not being clear. redqueen Mar 2013 #5

You won't last long here if that sort of thing gets you all upset. nt bemildred Mar 2013 #6

why not dispute whether or not it's a bad thing. but it's obviously, definitionally, "sexism". unblock Mar 2013 #7

Settle down. You didn't learn this. You heard the opinion of some people, that's all. HERVEPA Mar 2013 #8

Good point. Thanks n/t Fix The Stupid Mar 2013 #26

Sometimes opening a door for someone not disabled... fadedrose Mar 2013 #33

If the worst thing that happens to you today is getting called sexist for holding a door Recursion Mar 2013 #9

lol. Yep, put it that way, good point. thanks n/t Fix The Stupid Mar 2013 #28

As a woman I don't consider that sexist newfie11 Mar 2013 #11

So is Benevolent Sexism the theme for today? Gidney N Cloyd Mar 2013 #13

You said the secret word! theKed Mar 2013 #25

Holy crap that picture is suggestive. nt Bicoastal Mar 2013 #41

I've made it half a century without "benevolent sexism"... WorseBeforeBetter Mar 2013 #51

I held the door open for a dude with his arms full arriving at my office today. onehandle Mar 2013 #15

You are NOT a sexist leftynyc Mar 2013 #18

There are positive sexism and negative sexism snooper2 Mar 2013 #19

Oh for God's sake gollygee Mar 2013 #20

Not calling anyone an "outrage troll" Fix The Stupid Mar 2013 #40

Oh, come now. lapislzi Mar 2013 #52

My life lesson at 13 was sorefeet Mar 2013 #93

important to keep in mind though hfojvt Mar 2013 #55

It's been over 100 years now gollygee Mar 2013 #68

Are you sure that things have changed in that regard? hfojvt Mar 2013 #82

I remember reading about studies of fatal disasters, that men most often trampled kids and women bettyellen Mar 2013 #91

In disasters, there is likely all sorts of behavior treestar Mar 2013 #62

Well I certainly hope boats have enough lifeboats on them now gollygee Mar 2013 #69

Well, I made the mistake of reading that thread... TreasonousBastard Mar 2013 #23

This message was self-deleted by its author Apophis Mar 2013 #27

I'm 74 and like having the door opened fadedrose Mar 2013 #29

Please keep it up malaise Mar 2013 #30

you are employed as a tech. part of job climbing under desk to hook up. fellow employee seabeyond Mar 2013 #44

Argh! You have no idea, seabeyond! lapislzi Mar 2013 #65

. stevenleser Mar 2013 #31

Holding a door open for someone is polite, not sexist. AndyA Mar 2013 #34

You were doing just fine. Then you posted this. Xipe Totec Mar 2013 #35

I'm not whining about it. I resent being labeled a 'benevolent sexist'. n/t Fix The Stupid Mar 2013 #43

whine (n): A peevish complaint, esp one repeated. nt Xipe Totec Mar 2013 #50

peevish (adj): Easily irritated, esp. by unimportant things. demwing Mar 2013 #59

Rule #1 of the Internet: If someone does not say they're talking geek tragedy Mar 2013 #54

Make up your mind about your own behavior. lapislzi Mar 2013 #77

I appreciate it when someone holds the door for me. lumberjack_jeff Mar 2013 #36

It's not sexist..least not in my opinion. Upton Mar 2013 #37

Helping a little old lady shovel her snow is admirable and not geek tragedy Mar 2013 #38

I don't consider it sexist liberal_at_heart Mar 2013 #39

there is a fine line between civility and sexism....my take is this magical thyme Mar 2013 #42

It's interesting gvstn Mar 2013 #45

My aunts taught me that in the 70's bhikkhu Mar 2013 #46

Don't help them if they don't need it treestar Mar 2013 #47

What do you think of the phrase "cooking meals for men"? lumberjack_jeff Mar 2013 #49

Where/when is that prase used? Whats that mean? Fix The Stupid Mar 2013 #56

I hold the door for anyone, but I let women enter and exit the elevator first whatchamacallit Mar 2013 #53

Chivalry and equality are incompatible. n/t lumberjack_jeff Mar 2013 #66

Apparently so n/t whatchamacallit Mar 2013 #88

Ironically, the posters who complain about those sufrommich Mar 2013 #57

really? You learned that from the linked thread? cali Mar 2013 #58

Do you think it is "benevolent sexism"? Fix The Stupid Mar 2013 #70

Not passive aggressive. straight out contemptuous of your passive aggressive post. cali Mar 2013 #73

Stay classy :) Fix The Stupid Mar 2013 #80

I'm a woman... ljm2002 Mar 2013 #60

you've also learned to stir shit that has already been stirred, sir. backtoblue Mar 2013 #61

I'll pm you next time to ask your permission. Thanks n/t Fix The Stupid Mar 2013 #71

It would be easier on me if everyone would do that! backtoblue Mar 2013 #75

Is this Du'er 'shit-stirring" too? Fix The Stupid Mar 2013 #72

Open the door for both men and women and children you will hear a lot of "thank you".. Tikki Mar 2013 #63

IMO, as long as you walk through the door when a woman holds it open for you, woodsprite Mar 2013 #64

Things I learned on DU... SomethingFishy Mar 2013 #74

Reading is fundamental, Fix The Stupid. nt. NCTraveler Mar 2013 #76

Epic! Bok_Tukalo Mar 2013 #78

Please don't make us wait long for part II. Thanks. nt. NCTraveler Mar 2013 #83

Lately, I have been toying with the idea that most people are reasonable, ZombieHorde Mar 2013 #84

LOL! lumberjack_jeff Mar 2013 #89

"Sexist" is just another term that means different things to different people. dawg Mar 2013 #85

I hold doors open for women and I'm a woman. Cleita Mar 2013 #86

I'll hold the door open for anyone ismnotwasm Mar 2013 #87

THAT'S what you learned on DU? And THAT'S what you took from the thread you referenced? Squinch Mar 2013 #90

D'oh! I am a woman who is a 'benevolent sexist'! In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #92

it might just be me unreadierLizard Mar 2013 #94

Message auto-removed Homerj1 Mar 2013 #95

I love those who feign victim to being unfairly labeled a sexist... Oilwellian Mar 2013 #96

I'm usually not on DU on the weekends. NaturalHigh Mar 2013 #97