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In reply to the discussion: A cartoon about rape culture and risk [View all]Bonobo
(29,257 posts)She gave her boundaries. I think he even accepted her boundaries albeit with the admission that his "feelers" as you dismissively called them were hurt.
Do you begrudge that he would be honest about his feelings?
Apparently you believe that his feelings shouldn't be hurt, I get that. But his were. He expressed it. Should he have covered that over? Should he have had an instantaneous moment of clarity? Or should she have helped him learn the lesson that she went to all the trouble to draw this cartoon to tell to strangers?
Whatever. She chose not to communicate further and that is fine. He had his fee-fees hurt whereas she might have faced a rape. She was right to stay away. But he did not transgress on her boundaries. He merely expressed his feelings. The same ones you want others to say are not ones he has a right to.
So who really is being dismissive of feelings?