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In reply to the discussion: A cartoon about rape culture and risk [View all]Glassunion
(10,201 posts)I have (many, many, many moons ago) had similar thoughts. But I never felt like a creep.
I once dated this lovely lady. A nursing student. She at first seemed a bit paranoid, about every little thing: Where we met, how we got there, how we would get home, what time everything would happen, etc... At the time, the first time she asked me to meet her at her place, she made sure her folks were home (we were quite young) when I arrived. The thing is, when arranging our dates she would say that she was more comfortable meeting me there or that she would prefer that she have her sister drop her off, or whatever.
You see, she had feelings. And those feelings have absolute zero to do with me. If she felt one way or another, it is no reflection on me. But, 100% she felt that way. So to give it more than a glancing thought, I'd have to think about why she felt that way. She was afraid, or concerned about her safety. And any real man would also be concerned, but also attentive to making sure she feels safe. So if you have to meet her somewhere, or someone else tags along as a chaperone... So fucking what? She feels safe, and you get the pleasure of her company.