What can we DU now to help TTW and Yoshi ?

[daredtowork]

301. I couldn't remember where it was

But being from Virginia, I'm fairly familiar with that area of the country.

The larger point, though, is TTW is an autonomous person who is factoring in a lot of reasons that are appropriate from the point of view of her particular situation. People from the outside often impose what seems logical from their situation: they can't possible know all the factors. TTW tries to tell us as many as possible, and then we get a very long post with "too much information". What it boils down to is she has her own priorities that she is taking into account.

If she did have some sort of case manager there, they could help give her feedback on *her* priorities. However, criticizing and judging her priorities from here does nothing. Those are YOUR priorities that you are imposing: those often come with imagining that TTW *should* be out looking for a job when she's busy dealing with her legal matters and *should* be looking for resources when she should be looking for a job and *should* be dealing with legal matters when she should be looking for resources and *should* be keeping DU updated simultaneously while doing all this. When one's only lifeline to resources are involved, this sort of judgement gets internalized and just adds to the problem.

Who knows, maybe that South Carolina offer is still good, and TTW is on the phone contemplating moving a few hundred miles to throw herself (and her dog, which may be rejected) on the mercy of a stranger right now. All we know is given her choices before, she wasn't ready to make that move.