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seabeyond

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18. first, you do like to talk, what a post, lol. i read it all. excellent info.

Mon Mar 10, 2014, 11:50 AM

Mar 2014

i think it sounds so fair and balanced trying to see all there is there. thank you for being so thorough in your writing. i have not experienced anything like this, but it was an interesting read. my father is 76. i cannot imagine, as i watch him age, being anything but respectful of him, as a man, as a human, as an elder.

my only thought in it all is, with you mom as she is, social, yet health issues and you father as he is... having to possibly do heavy lifting, selling the house anyway, why not a retirement community?

that sounds ideal for all of them. and it sounds like they have the money that will eb able to provide that. have access to someone being on top of their health.

keep us updated please. i am now invested in your story.

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My sister wants to have my parents declared completely mentally incompetent. [View all] DebJ Mar 2014 OP

First of all, TexasTowelie Mar 2014 #1

Thanks. And DebJ Mar 2014 #3

If only one parent is alive, the other one HAS to come live with one of us, no question. DebJ Mar 2014 #6

As a quiet non-confrontational person who does hold some resentment hollysmom Mar 2014 #2

Thank you for sharing your experiences. I do like the ideas. DebJ Mar 2014 #4

Itis funny, I never found the companion, a co-worker did hollysmom Mar 2014 #28

Life's too short to feel insulted. Especially when 'conversation' is typed! DebJ Mar 2014 #40

A doctor - or more than one - has to evaluate a person, then THEY - not your sister - would patricia92243 Mar 2014 #5

Unfortunately that is even more frightening. DebJ Mar 2014 #7

This message was self-deleted by its author Waiting For Everyman Mar 2014 #8

I'm in NC and although we didn't go through these issues mnhtnbb Mar 2014 #9

Whew. Just checked out one place in the area that gives some idea of cost online. DebJ Mar 2014 #14

There are places now that are set up more like apartments without mnhtnbb Mar 2014 #16

Thanks! I'll keep looking. n/t DebJ Mar 2014 #21

In my town we have discounted senior living. hollysmom Mar 2014 #29

Wouldn't a better compromise be to allow avebury Mar 2014 #10

If I can get them to come stay with me for a bit, we have a second cousin DebJ Mar 2014 #11

My first cousin just told me that her Mom (my mother's sister) lived with her oldest DebJ Mar 2014 #12

First of all............ mrmpa Mar 2014 #13

Thank you so very much. Such a perspective from a court takes a big load off my mind. DebJ Mar 2014 #15

ill email you mrmpa Mar 2014 #32

From what you have mentioned, your mother sounds like she really needs her social activities. Xyzse Mar 2014 #17

Absolutely. n/t DebJ Mar 2014 #22

first, you do like to talk, what a post, lol. i read it all. excellent info. seabeyond Mar 2014 #18

Hi seabeyond! DebJ Mar 2014 #25

I have no advice, only the reassurance that other families behave this way, also. hedgehog Mar 2014 #19

Yes hedgehog that is my perspective, and most of my sisters as well. DebJ Mar 2014 #24

See a lawyer experienced in estate planning. Brigid Mar 2014 #20

Brigid there are no funds available for that. DebJ Mar 2014 #23

Legal Aid Society? Brigid Mar 2014 #31

^this^ in combination with seabeyond's suggestion. Also, take note that it is not easy Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2014 #26

A few thoughts. Le Taz Hot Mar 2014 #27

Thanks! One of my sisters who isn't the NC one might ask for DebJ Mar 2014 #30

The state they are in might have a free legal aid group for the elderly. Lars39 Mar 2014 #33

Thanks. I just called A Place for Mom, you might have seen the commercials. DebJ Mar 2014 #34

That he served is what counts. Lars39 Mar 2014 #35

Have any papers been filed yet? rug Mar 2014 #36

I honestly don't know. Perhaps my sisters could ask the NC sister. DebJ Mar 2014 #37

In the morning call the clerk of the court of the county where she's staying. rug Mar 2014 #39

Thanks, I'll do that! n/t DebJ Mar 2014 #41

OH NOOOO! Just saw a ten day forecast with 1-3 inches on the 17th-19th at my parents' place DebJ Mar 2014 #38

It won't last long, the temps are not going to stay that long - temps are higher n/t hollysmom Mar 2014 #42

Thanks. I am really starting to freak. I am in a sweat, actually, my hands are soaked. DebJ Mar 2014 #43

I will keep this short and sweet... zabet Mar 2014 #44

Update Tuesday morning: I called the clerk of the county court. DebJ Mar 2014 #45

A DUer asked that I update the status of this. Here's the current status quo. DebJ Mar 2014 #46