Reply #275: Controlling the beast within [View All]

[Stuckinthebush]

has been a human pursuit for centuries. We do try to deny and/or control our true nature in many areas - some for good and some do more harm than good.

Our nature is to kill and fight those that threaten us. This applies to even the perception of threat. Thank the gods that we have done a fairly good job at suppressing this desire in daily life. Our governments aren't doing as good of a job, however.

Sex, on the other hand, is controlled to our detriment. We arrest people for having sex in public or for exposing sexual parts. The message is that sex is bad or embarrassing. The rationale is that people don't want to be exposed to other's sexual relationships. The deeper question is, "Why not?"

As for crossing the line, I think you have a valid question there. Any time sex becomes violent, one-sided, or abusive, then it crosses the line. Of course, it is no longer sex at that point.

As for those that have sex in the open, I'd imagine that pure passion combined with decreased inhibition due to alcohol or drugs are mostly at issue here instead of an in-your-face attitude.

Here is a fun test... If you are ever faced with two people having sex in public again, instead of walking away or calling the police, go up to them, sit down, and watch. Bring your friends along and encourage others around you to do the same. I bet you large bills that the couple will get very uncomfortable and stop the act. They probably weren't thinking about being watched, and when it becomes obvious that others are silently observing, then they will stop and walk away. They may scream at you to beat it to which you reply, "I assumed you wanted people to watch - why don't you two go somewhere private if you don't want people to watch." If they continue, then it may be fun to comment on their technique or openly reflect on your experiences while watching. You may even wish to clap if they do something extremely impressive.

My bet is this will cure them of their exhibitionist tendencies.