Reply #13: My former friend also talked about "real friendship" a lot, [View All]

[DemBones DemBones]

and said we were "soul mates" and "sisters." We were friends nearly twenty years before I finally gave up on her. Looking back, there were always some nagging little things, things I just tried to gloss over, telling myself "Nobody's perfect."

My final conclusion was that she looks at other people as props in her world and doesn't understand that they are real people with feelings. I think there are quite a few people like that, actually. Ultimately, I think you have to protect yourself from such people because they will keep injuring you if you don't. Your friend sounds like one of those people to me.

You can't change her -- look at what she's done and how she expects you to knuckle under to her whims! So you either let her treat you that way or chalk up the loss of a "friend" to experience. Some people would say you should confront her and try to solve the problems; I just don't think that works in real life. It might have worked ten years ago, when she first said something a little insensitive.

I'm sorry about it and know it feels bad. :-( Hope an anonymous virtual :hug: can help!