Reply #78: get outta there and free yourself!! [View All]

[bettyellen]

I feel for you out there with these men who don't have much to do with women except judging them over that one thing. But most men do judge us over that one thing, they just hide it better because they want out of the provinces. Because face it, we judge them and hide it well ourselves. In a smalll town it can be pretty oppressive, if you're single and have a decent sex life, you could be the only thing worth talking about!! So then you get all the men you stopped sleeping with talking with the ones you turned down, and well, it can get ugly. I'm from NYC, and there are corners there where people live in there dumb little world. People used to make fun of me for wanting to go to manhattan and do stuff instead of hanging out and freebasing and watching cable.

Guys feel justified because when they live the old school scenario and they are picking up the tab. And any woman that expects them to, can't expect any better from a man.

You just gotta get to someplace where you can pay your own way, and men are a little more used to keeping mixed company. Then you'll like men more and you'll want to be slutty and no one has the power to judge you poorly. Some guys, they'd like to move in a wider circle than hooters or the parking lot of the 7-11. You gotta get out of there, the culture of being an asshole is too great. Anyone interesting is baling out to find something better, and you should too. Don't go back until you have had your fun, grown a strong spine and won't let anyone stop you from going after what you want.