Reply #45: As the mother of an ADHD Aspie kid, I will say this [View All]

[Not_Giving_Up]

My son doesn't always behave in stores, particularly if they are crowded. He doesn't do well in crowds...the noise gets to him. Knowing this, I try to shop when I can leave the kids with my husband, or while they are at school. However, when I'm working, the only time I have to shop is in the evenings. My husband has recently started working out of town off an on, in the past he has tended to work nights. So, sometimes I have to take an unhappy kid to the store.

Please believe me when I say that unless I'm going for something needed without a doubt (like dinner for that night, or toilet paper), I will try to avoid taking him if he's having a bad day. Sometimes, bad day or not, we're down to the last roll of toilet paper, and there's just no choice.

I try to remain calm in the store if he's going bonkers...this helps him to calm down. If I get all worked up, he will get worked up worse.

I realize that some people have no idea how to deal with their children and do nothing about the way they act in public. However, sometimes it's just a really bad day for the kid, which makes it a really bad day for them mom. Don't judge based on one incident.