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If there is one thing that is surely true about DU, it's that people will be bluntly honest, and I need that right now.

My ex-boyfriend and I broke up about two months ago. We still live together because our lease isn't up until April, and neither of us can afford to move or live in this house alone. He started seeing someone else shortly after we broke up. I didn't flip out or show jealousy. For the most part, anyway. I am human. I asked him for two things that I didn't think were too much to ask: that he not bring his new girlfriend to the house, even when I'm not there, and that he not lie to me. And I didn't mean that he could never bring his girlfriend over. I just meant that for a while, until I had a chance to get over him, I'd like my house to be a sanctuary where I never have to worry about running into her. He agreed. Whether it was too much for me to ask that he not bring her over, he agreed and promised that he wouldn't.

A few times along the way I questioned whether he was bringing her over, and he got angry with me, saying that it hurts him that I would think him so inconsiderate and disrespectful of our friendship. He actually made me feel like a horrible person and a horrible friend for thinking such a thing. I apologized, and meant it.

For the last week or so he's been very flirty with me and even suggested a few times that we should hook up "for old time's sake". I did not hook up with him, because I know that doing so would be too hard for me emotionally. He also said he might not be as into her as he thought he was because her family is "a bunch of rednecks".

So, today I decided to go home for dinner during my break at work. I didn't think he would be there because he'd said he and his girlfriend were going to the movies and dinner. And I'm sure you're already thinking it -- yes, the two of them were there watching TV. I lost it. Well, not too bad. I said to her, "you should know that he's been trying to get me to fuck him for the last week." Then he went out to my car with me and we fought about it. I told him that I couldn't be his friend if he's not only going to lie to me, but also make me feel like shit over something that he knows I was right about.

So, cut through several hours of us texting threats at each other. He started apologizing and asking me to please stay his friend. He said I was his best friend and he was all torn up at the thought of losing me in that way. I told him that the only way I could consider staying friends with him is if he told her the truth about trying to sleep with me. I think she should know. He instantly got pissed again and said I was being unreasonable. He said that I was trying to make him chose between me and her. And sure, the evil side of me would feel some satisfaction at her leaving him. But the reality is that if he lets her believe I was lying, and he hasn't been trying to cheat on her, then he has no integrity, and he's going to hurt her as badly as he's hurt me. I just don't think I want a friend like that in my life.

So, yeah. What does DU think?