Reply #24: I think you've responded to my adoption threads before. [View All]

[ulysses]

And yes, it is HER CHILD until she signs those papers, and she has EVERY right to change her mind.

I don't think I or anyone here has said differently. It would have been nice to have been *told* that she'd changed her mind, if in fact she did, but that's neither here nor there.

Oh, and just to let you know... a woman who is pregnant is NOT a birthmother. Birthmothers are women who have surrendered already-born children for adoption. Just like people waiting to adopt are not adoptive parents. And pregnant women considering adoption are not "our birthmother". Potential adopters don't own them, and they are not incubators to give infertile couples babies.

Yeah, we've talked before. Please put aside your assumptions and read the initial post - I quite specifically didn't call her "our" birthmother for the very reason you cite, and we have never viewed her or any other "pregnant woman considering adoption" as a fucking incubator.

Just anti - bigotted, closed, disrespectful adoption.

Which is why we're pursuing a non-bigoted, open, respectful path.