Reply #79: Ugh. [View All]

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"I hope the message women get is that they can use this information to realize their biology is toying with their desires and to ask themselves, 'Am I going to let that run my life, my sexual decision-making?' " Pillsworth said. "For the men I would say not to be too fearful of these findings. While women may notice other men during this part of their cycle, unfaithful behavior is relatively rare."

The woman in me is offended by that disgusting, condesending passage.

:puke:

I would love to see a world where women and men are able to throw off antiquated ideas of morality, are very in touch with their sexual selves, and act according to wants, needs and desires. Responsibly. Without the horrifing sexism or sexual sterotypes. (it can happen.)

I enjoy monogamy. I found I'm at happiest with a life partner.
I know several couples who do as well.

I know people who could never consider it, but out of social pressure try to conform. -"Cheaters"- come in two types, male and female with a whole host of confusing and conflicting desires and fantasies in between.
Gawd, doesn't anybody remember the so called sexual revolution, where everything from mulitple person marriages, to "open" marriages as well as other alternatives were actually discussed, and even tried out? Even total abstinence, as a life choice--is still a sexual choice.
It was a least above the radar, instead of a hidden, underground,-- forgive me for using the term --"lifestyle" Men and women also share many of the same hormones, and levels vary from person to person.

If someone is sexually healthy, (a mighty feat in today's world, with all the sexual manipulation, sexism, forced roles and sterotypes we endure) I believe sexual honesty with oneself and a desire to not harm or hurt others is the norm. But maybe I'm a dreamer.