Reply #59: No, not get some balls, grow the fuck up [View All]

[MadHound]

Staying in a position in life where you worry about being nerdy simply does you no good. Such an attitude holds you back at a high school level.

There are tons of young men who grow out of this and develop themselves. It is usually forced upon them in college to some extent or another, but just the course of real life will do the same. Again, there is no label on the back of these men singling them out. When you get out of high school you have a chance for a fresh start. The vast majority of men take advantage of it and do grow up, learn how to interact not just with women, but with people in general.

And while what you say might be true in China, over here the fact of the matter is that conservative men do look for Oriental women because of the commonly held believe that they are subservient and obedient, not because the women overlook, understand and cherish their nerdiness. Don't believe me, check out the lines run out by the many companies that specialize in hooking up American men with foreign brides.

Your advice to these young men is counterproductive, you are enabling them to retain a label and self image that is harmful to them. Stop it, tell them that their past disappears once they graduate from high school, and that they can remake themselves how they see fit. Yes, they might be nervous speaking to groups of people, so are many people, including non-nerds. They might not be comfortable in the bar scene, but again, so are lots of non-nerd people. But the fact of the matter is that they can grow up beyond being a nerd, be true to themselves, and be comfortable with who they are.