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Sparkly

Sparkly's Journal
Sparkly's Journal
February 13, 2025

David Brooks: "Can We Please Stop Calling These People Populists?"

I've never been a fan of David Brooks, and he still gets most things wrong. For example, he starts from the premise that our division is between the "educated class" and the "working class" (as if no educated people are in the "working class" ). He then claims cause-effect with education (rather than correlation with poverty) for a range of issues, including health and single parenting. He goes back to the 1960s to 'explain' how "Bobos" or "the creative class" took over the country, with a "stifling progressive orthodoxy!" (You know, the one that stifled the 'conservative' ability to oppress other people and deny civil rights based on their own bigotry.)

Next he says that rare, brave conservative students like himself made it through liberal colleges to save the day! (This was the generation that HATED the Clintons, as the first "1960s" college-grads in Washington.)

However, like a lifelong jerk sitting by his fireside smoking his pipe yet suddenly smelling his farts, Brooks wrote the four paragraphs I chose to quote.

But here’s the problem: As F. Scott Fitzgerald wrote in “The Great Gatsby,” rich people are careless. They break things. The members of the Trumpist elite think they’re going after the educated elites at U.S.A.I.D. and the N.I.H., but you know who’s really going to pay the price? It’s the woman in Namibia who is going to die of AIDS because PEPFAR has been eviscerated. It’s the child in Ohio who’s going to die of cancer because medical research was slowed. It’s the future citizens of America whose lives will be worse because their state institutions no longer function. It’s the working-class communities that will continue to languish because Trump ignores their main challenges and focuses instead on culture war distractions.

Here’s the essence of Trumpism: It’s to be blithely unconcerned that people without a college degree die about eight years sooner or that hundreds of thousands of Africans might now die of AIDS but to go into paroxysms of moral panic because of who competes in a high school girls’ swim meet.

Sure, the upper reaches of the federal work force are generally left or center left, as you’d expect from a group that possesses a plenitude of advanced degrees. But they are also mostly nonpolitical patriots who often work 60-hour weeks to keep us safe, to save lives, to make America work. This is a complexity the Trumpists seem incapable of contemplating. They are people who would destroy your home because they don’t like your lawn sign.

I’m not a fan of populism, but real populism would be better than the right-wing elite nihilists who are running the country now.

https://www.nytimes.com/2025/02/13/opinion/trump-populism-elites.html
January 28, 2025

Guilt

Many days, I feel awful for feeling awful. I feel weak for being weak. I feel wrong for having something wrong with me.

I've felt guilt for incapacity, and have apologized for whining that I'm tired, things hurt, I need to rest, or even plainly that I have other, important priorities right now. The more time passes, the more I want to hoard my time, and the more I feel guilt for it.

On the other side, I feel guilt for people mourning the death they know is coming, and the knowing they will live without me. I'm seeking support to get through this -- because surely this must be normal? Like, I feel badly to see the people around me in pain because I am going to die, and they will have to adjust and live without me, and what will next year be like if I don't make it that far, etc...

Don't get me wrong -- I love how much they love me! But on another level, I feel I'm letting them down, somehow. It doesn't have to be rational -- it just is. I can't be the only one who's felt this way, so if anyone knows of a book, a group, anything helpful about this, I'd really appreciate it! Thanks in advance.

January 22, 2025

This is all more difficult with the monster in power.

I remember bemoaning, in 2024, that if I lived to be 80, fully 10% of my life would have been under the presidency of George W. Bush! I couldn't imagine anything worse - not a more terrible president, with an even more misinformed electorate, nor a much shorter life span.

I envy those who have hope to see the cretin out of office in 4 years, and who can do something - anything! - in the meantime to shed light on who these people are and what they're doing. Messages of "have hope - there are elections to come!" don't apply to me.

You could say the consequences won't affect me, either. All I have is now; and right now, I am worried about the future for my daughter and granddaughter. It is extremely difficult to know I can't help as the years go forward. I can only hope they "keep their wits about them," as my Mom would say.

It's an added layer of anxiety. There's an added level of anger and resentment seeing what this administration is doing, day to day. There's an added level of grief that I won't see a woman president in my lifetime, despite supporting well-qualified female candidates in four primary and two general elections.

About cancer treatments: Ongoing Herceptin infusions, a second opinion next week (for my own peace of mind), CT scan mid-February (to see if the lung tumors have grown enough for a substantial biopsy), then probably back to chemotherapy, hoping for a few more months. Not looking forward to that. Not sure whether it's worthwhile.

Thanks for letting me vent.

January 9, 2025

I told my daughter today.

It's been five days since the dire diagnosis was confirmed, and her not knowing has been weighing on my mind. Her Dad, Stepmom, Stinky and I arranged to meet her, our granddaughter, and her SO at Dad & Stepmom's new house. It was ostensibly to 'see the new house,' but she knew something was wrong.

Her Stepmom served sparkling water, snacks, and then a home-cooked, elaborate lunch I was too anxious to eat. We managed to share cheerful time together! Then she said she wanted to know the reason for this gathering, and I told her, one fact at a time, in as few careful words as necessary.

She did break down, but she almost seemed to be expecting it. The one thing that shocked her was the notion that I might live a year or less. She kept apologizing for having been a "bad daughter," while I apologized for having to deliver this news. I reminded her that we can't change the past, that I love her unconditionally, and that I'm proud that she's survived her own ordeals.

In one breath, "It's not about you," and in the next, "It's about you, now." I didn't say it this way, but actually I don't need her to do anything for me. She can spend all the time she wants with me, of course, but not for my sake. All I want now is for her to thrive, stay healthy, and take care of that miracle baby.

I sent her a text message saying we need to stop apologizing. It's a constant habit, and surely she picked it up from me. (A relic from the days when proper girls were taught to apologize constantly for everything and for nothing. My sisters and I do it all the time, and now I do it with my daughter, habitually. "Sorry!" "No, I'm sorry!" "I told you to stop saying you're sorry!" "Oh yeah - sorry.&quot

I proposed we begin a list of sentences that start with "I'm glad," "I'm grateful," "I love," "I'm happy" etc. that we might both continue to expand. Perhaps it could become a blog at some point? Or if there are other mothers and daughters in this position, maybe sooner rather than later? Just writing thoughts after a difficult afternoon.

Thanks again to you all for letting me share all this here.

January 5, 2025

It's back. :(

Yesterday, I got the news I've been dreading: the high-grade serous endometrial cancer I battled with surgery, chemo, and radiation through 2023 - and since then with ongoing Herceptin infusions, scans, and tests to monitor - has metastasized to my lungs.

This puts me at Stage IV with a pretty dire prognosis. My oncologist is consulting other doctors about the risks of doing a needle biopsy for molecular analysis of the 'nodules' re: mutations (although I did have this in my first diagnosis, where genetic mutations were found - but Kaiser had sent me elsewhere, so something didn't transfer, I guess).

From there, I might repeat another six rounds of Carbo/Taxol, and lose my hair, eyelashes, and energy all over again -- to live how long? I know I shouldn't consult "Dr. Google," but it seems a matter of 5-12 months anyway, particularly if they don't do surgery. (And surgery has not been mentioned.)

I might just go straight to palliative care, but I have a baby granddaughter - a miracle! - and I want all the time I can to be with her and my daughter, to "put things in order," to write and record, to savor every minute and leave behind everything I can. The baby is 8 months old, so she will never remember me.

This is difficult. Life has given me many difficulties, so I'll find my way through this final one. (Meanwhile, please take good care of my husband, Stinky the Clown, and I hope you'll acknowledge whatever updates I, he, or we post as this goes forward.)

Meanwhile, I haven't told my daughter yet, and it weighs heavily on me. I want to tell her in person, but she's busy, taking the baby from place to place, working, managing her own healthcare needs... It's going to be extremely difficult for her to process, and I'm not sure how to spoon-feed it to her in small bites.

Thanks to all of you for 'being there' (meaning here, of course).

Sparkly (aka "Sparkly Fairy Princess," in my DU debut)

January 1, 2025

Almost 50 years of elections from the perspective of an old woman. (Warning - a rant)

I cast my first vote for Jimmy Carter, and what's likely to be my last for Kamala Harris. Oh, irony.

In-between, I cast every vote I could, in every election, for Democrats. I was always aware of the issues, but not of the "thinking" among the electorate overall.

In 1976, I'd just graduated high school. I was already well aware of feminist issues (early subscriber to Ms. magazine, thanks to an older sister) and had done much research on the women's movement. My liberal parents emphasized education, racial equality, and care for people in need. Carter was a clear choice.

In 1980, it came as a SHOCK to me that Reagan was elected. I'd lived and worked on my own in New York City, and resuming undergrad studies, I saw the debates on my tiny antenna TV. The choice seemed obvious to me! For all the blather about "Eek-oh-nomic growth," Reagan's proposals and priorities made absolutely no sense. How could he have won over Carter? I was absolutely astonished.

In 1984, I was in upstate NY in grad school. Same TV, same thing. What the heck?!? I really LIKED Walter Mondale and everything he stood for, and I was thrilled to support our first woman VP Candidate, Geraldine Ferraro! This was my first chance to see what opponents and/or the media does to women politicians, though. It would repeat for 40 years.

In 1988, I was back in NY City, with a baby. From then on, she went with me to the polls, and pulled levers! People make fun of Michael Dukakis, but I thought he was superb! I liked who he was and what he said. I like his priorities, his goals, and his platform. Compared with George H.W. Bush, who stood on Reagan's tax cuts for the wealthy, enormous deficit spending, and fakery, I was hopeful for Dukakis. Dashed again.

In 1992, Bill Clinton wasn't my first choice in the primaries, but once he broke through, he was definitely my choice in the general election against G.H.W. Bush. Finally! A win!!

In 2000, the election results were ABSURD. The People clearly voted for Al Gore, yet the Supreme Court and the officials in Florida (including W's brother) selected him. He squeaked by on a few electoral college votes in Florida while losing the popular vote to Gore, then put his dad's personnel in place and pushed a radical rightwing agenda.

In 2004, it looked liked GW Bush actually won the popular vote (we all sent "I'm sorry" posts to the world), but that can never be proven. If ever there were an election with machinery chicanery, it was that one. "Statistical anomalies," "irregularities," and "shrug - we just dunno" popped up only in key precincts in key districts in key states. But the machines had no paper trail, so there was nothing to verify against exit polls.

In 2008, I gladly voted for Obama, yet all of a sudden, there was no heavy lift. The opposition was subdued compared with everything before and since. Not to bring up old wounds, but I believe powerful people had much to lose if Hillary Clinton had won the DNC nomination, and there were many reasons to allow our first Black president to take office for 8 years before opposing her again with their true goal. (How scary could they make John McCain and Mitt Romney?!)

In 2016, I believe we saw the "trump card" played out. Hillary Clinton epitomized everything Russian oligarchs and Republicans with an ounce of intellect fear: a superbly qualified woman, well-studied in world affairs, staunchly opposed to Putin, strong in support of the European Union, steadfast on human rights, and courageous enough to stand up to tyrants. This was the election I'd been waiting for all my life, and I shed tears after casting my ballot, and many more upon seeing the results.

Since 2020, we know Joe Biden has been an extraordinary president, surpassing expectations. Kamala Harris was an excellent VP and candidate for president. But here we go again.

It's 2024, and here we go again. It's likely my last go-round, and I'm completely disillusioned. This is not the democracy my parents' and grandparents' generation fought and died for. It's not what I taught my daughter it was important to pull the lever for. It seems like it's just a bunch of suckers falling for the circus show, and we go along with it hoping somehow that the ropes and ladders, elephants and buckets, ribbons and hoops will sustain us in the end.

August 4, 2024

Sparkly's Suggested Terms for Solo "Debate" on ABC

Vice President Harris intends to appear for the scheduled debate on Sept. 10 on ABC, although what's his name has chickened out.
For added value, I suggest:

1. James Austin Johnson stands in at the other podium as a substitute.
2. There is absolutely NO need for the substitute to wear a chicken costume! A few well-placed feathers will suffice.
3. To assure fairness and avoid unnecessary comedy, the substitute is limited to using transcripts of the candidate’s exact words.

August 4, 2024

Sparkly's Suggested Terms for Debate on Fox

I suggest Vice President Harris accept the cretin’s conditions for a Sept. 4 debate on Fox, with the following conditions:

1. There can be an audience, but carnival music must accompany what’s his name’s entrance, a laugh track must accompany his attempts at machismo, and every bit of braggadocio must be met with an audible “womp womp” sound.

2. Guests may be invited to sit in the audience, including people with personal grievances and/or dreams of fame (as the candidate of lesser intelligence did in 2016) provided that said candidate's performances on the invisible accordion are given realistic musical audio as he speaks.

3. Fox News can broadcast the debate, as long as moderators are chosen from a select roster of MSNBC anchors. If that is not acceptable, a list of alternates shall comprise Keith Olbermann, Stephen Colbert, Al Franken, Hillary Clinton, Mark Milley, John Brennan, and Stinky the Clown.

4. In lieu of real-time fact-checking, a loud buzzing noise and a red “X” over the offending candidate’s image will suffice for well-known lies. (A baseline summary is included here.)

5. Veering off the topic of the question will require moderators to follow up with inquiries concerning the candidate’s “issues with your father.” (Mary Trump will provide real-time psychological analysis.)

Other suggestions?

March 11, 2024

The 20-year DU Anniversaries (a little history?)

A fellow DUer's 20th anniversary here reminded me -- of course! DU began after the devastation that was Bush v. Gore. I hope it's okay to post a short history, without breaking the rules. It seems too long ago for it to revive any feuds.

The "Shrub" administration seemed as threatening then as the orange menace seems now. By 2004, the fight among primary candidates was fierce. The DU sensibility was generally for Howard Dean. Some of us who supported other candidates lurked on other sites but feared joining DU. I know those of us who supported Gen. Wesley Clark ("Clarkies&quot considered DU with some trepidation.

Clark's strategy included Dean winning Iowa, thinking it might then become a two-man race in New Hampshire and narrow further in South Carolina. But Dean lost Iowa, and Kerry and Edwards came out with huge momentum.

General Clark dropped out of the race in February, and Dean dropped soon afterward. Once Super Tuesday was over, the coast seemed clear at DU. John Kerry was going to be the nominee, like it or not, and everyone was (somewhat) welcome at DU.

That's why there was an influx of new DUers in March of 2004, and why we're likely to see a lot of 20-year anniversaries around now! I just checked my profile, and realized my own 20th anniversary on DU will be March 12th. How time flies!!!

Remembering those times, I am really grateful for the flexibility of the DU owners, operators, and admins - past and present - who rolled with troubled times, changed the rules as needed, and even opened all the new forums to keep us going after 2004. Even though I haven't posted as much lately, DU has been important to me for a long time.

January 13, 2021

Why are the Republicans finally jumping ship?

Just today, we're seeing some die-hard, dug-in Republicans rolling over, and apparently ready to throw Trump under. Clearly it's related to the attack on the Capitol last Wednesday, but it still took days to see a budge. After four years of Trump's abject lawlessness, corruption, criminality, defiance, and mania, what do you think finally may have made even the last hold-outs consider going against him?

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