Hints of life after death from near death experiences.

[Cleita]

I found this website shortly after my husband's death.

http://www.near-death.com/index.html

I don't know how credible it is but it seems that the administrators have tried to keep things as objective as possible even having articles from skeptics in it.

I wonder if anyone here has had such an experience or if they know of anyone close to them who has?

[Quakerfriend]

1. Hi Cleita

:9

I remember the picture you posted all those months ago. I will always think of your handsome husband when I see you around DU! I hope that you are holding up OK.

This site is really neat!

I do know several people who have had NDEs. One thing comes across very clearly to me and that is that those who have experienced NDE have NO DOUBTS about how real it was to them.

Eight years ago, when I was very sick with cancer, I had regular visits from family members who had passed on. Almost every night they would visit me. Sometimes as a group and sometimes as individuals. It was very comforting to me. Two things really stood out to me. One, they came with complete and unconditional love and two, they were VERY VERY close by. One thing that was sort of strange was that those who visited me were often times relatives I had never know, or barely knew as a child. Sometimes I would describe them to my older sister and she would tell me who they were. Sometimes they sent 'confirmations' the next day. For ex, my deceased aunt Jane visited me one night and the next day a friend of my mothers dropped off a book to me (without me asking for the book). I opened the book and there at the bottom of pg. 545 was a quote from my aunt's father, who had been a renowned oncologist years ago. The quote was about how important it is to realize that positive thinking is critical to overcoming cancer. That was the confirmation that aunt Jane had visited me and I suppose she wanted me to get that message too!

One other thing that was very consistent, was that when they talked to me they never moved there mouths. It was all through the conveyance of thoughts. Anyway, it was very comforting to me!! :hi:

[Me.]

2. Evenin' Quakerfriend

You've been on my mind as I hadn't seen you around. Not that I've been posting much lately mind you, but I clicked into here and there you were. Really liked your post, very comforting.

[Quakerfriend]

13. Hey girl!

:hi:

I've been thinking about you, too! I've been so busy lately and haven't had time to write. Check your mail.

[Digit]

3. Quakerfriend, that was a very comforting post

Can you share what they were telling you?

[Quakerfriend]

15. Hi Dig, hope you're doing well!

Most of the time their messages were brief. For example, my Aunt Jane said to me, "You'll always be with your boys." That was it.

However, what she said was very significant to me. You see, Aunt Jane died of cancer when her boys were 2, 8, and 11. And, my cousins grew up with a step mother who was very hard on them.

When I was sick I often worried about what would happen if my boys (then 2 and 5) were to be raised by someone else. - A natural fear, I suppose, for anyone it that situation.

So, it seemed to me that she was speaking to this. However, she certainly could have been referring to the fact that we are always connected in spirit.

Interestingly enough, with the exception of one, all visitors were family members.

However, my youngest sister Linnea, who died only two years earlier, was never among them. I would have loved to visit with her. It's sort of strange in that way.

One time they were all there hovering over me trying to decide what I needed. It was sort of funny! (Reminded me of the way I've heard it described when extraterrestrials examine you!)

[Sanity Claws]

16. They sound like wonderful experiences

Were you ever able to figure out the reasons why they visited you at a particular time? Did you ever figure out a way to get them to visit with you?
I was wondering whether I could pick up ideas on how I could reach deceased relatives.

[Quakerfriend]

17. Most of my visits were at night just as I was falling asleep OR

in the morning right before I woke up. I learned later that as you are falling asleep there is a sort of 'portal' to the spirit world and that this is a common time for this type of exchange to occur.

As you are more aware and open to this happening you will find that it occurs more frequently. You will find that 'they' like to drop in and let you know that they are near!

I have been doing a bit of genealogical work in the past several years and I most definitely sense that they are 'leading' me at times.

Here's an example of what I'm talking about. In early Aug. I was watching my son's tennis match and happened to strike up a conversation with the man sitting next to me. Well it turned out that he worked for the Water Dept in Phila. and he knew of my great Uncle Rudolph, who worked for the dept in the late 1800s. Several weeks later he invited me to view the archives of the Water Dept. I came away with hundreds of pages of documents written by my Uncle Rudolph!! Suddenly, I knew my Uncle Rudolph like I never imagined I would.

It's a lot of fun!:9

[FreedomAngel82]

4. How neat

I've had relatives visit me too. I remember a few years ago my great-grandma (my dad's grandmother) died on New Year's eve morning. Around 12am eastern I had this really very depressing feeling in my heart chakra. I had no idea why I was so down. Later that morning my dad told me that my great-grandma had died. On the way to her house for her funeral the whole way there I smelt ham. My grandma later told that my great-grandma's favorite meal was ham and vegetables and milk. I could see my great-grandma at her funeral watching and my great-grandpa was with her. I never met him but I've seen plenty of photo's of him around her house and my dad has some here so I knew who he was. They never said anything to me but just watched as everything was happening. You could feel this amazing overwhelming love coming from them. Last July a few days after my birthday my grandfather died. The day before my birthday my grandfather was supposed to go into the hospital to have a temporary feeding tube put in because he wasn't eating and things took a change for the worse. Just out of nowhere so my family and I went to visit with him. We decided to come back on Tuesday since there was no change and the doctors didn't know when and/or if he was going to die at that point. On Wednesday I got a message from my master guide and he told me that my grandfather was thinking about leaving even though it wasn't yet his time. I could sense he was in a lot of pain (he died from lung cancer) and was so tired and couldn't handle anything anymore. He wasn't sure yet if he was going to die but was seriously thinking about it. Before my family and I left my grandmother and aunt had a talk with him and told him if he needed to go on they understud and would be okay. Wednesday night I was up late and doing some computer stuff and got this strong message from my grandfather that he decided he was going to go ahead and go on. He said goodbye and he loved me and all of us. At first I wasn't sure if it was me or not. Around 2:30am est I decided to go ahead and go to my bedroom. I still couldn't sleep so I watched some tv. A little bit after 4:30am I was about to go to bed but infront of my door (bedroom door) very very quickly I saw an actual image of my grandfather. He never said anything but sort of smiled through his eyes (I hope you know what I mean) and than quickly left. If I blinked I would've missed it. I wasn't sure if I was really seeing that but I knew something was going on. I just didn't want to believe it. I finally went to bed and woke up around 7:30am and heard my Mom talking to my aunt on the phone and she told my Mom that my grandfather had died in the night around the time I went to bed and saw him in my room. Later that day I was taking a shower and he sent me a message stating he already saw his guides and did whatever it is he had to do and it was decided he was going to stay around my grandmother since they're soul mates (or twin flames as people call them as well). I still sense him around whenever I'm with my grandmother and every once in a while he'll pop in here to see me. :)
I've also had a visit before from my future self and what I think is supposed to be my future daughter which was really strange. I'll have to check out that site later.

[Cleita]

5. My question is exactly how do you see them?

I often feel my husband around and I don't know if it's because I got familiar with his presence for so many years that it seems he's around. Sometimes I forget he's dead and I want to talk to him, but then I have to remind myself he's dead.

Also, since my cataracts were removed I see through contact lens implanted in my eyeball, so my seeing mechanism is artificial. So I wonder exactly how you see, maybe it would help me see him if he's around.

[NMDemDist2]

6. go ahead and talk to him, you don't have to say anything out loud

just tell him in your thoughts

he's there and will stay close until you can let him go

my grammy did

[FreedomAngel82]

18. Just with my regular eyes

I'm not sure how it works but with my grandfather it was just my regular eyes. It was really, really fast and if I blinked I would've missed. I wasn't sure what was happening since I didn't hear until later that morning that he did die. I also saw a guardian angel of mine once and a faerie and that was also with my eyes. It was really something. I don't know how it works. :shrug: I know it does. I also used to see spirits all the time but now I'm shielded after an incident that happened to protect me so now days when I see spirits it's mostly white flashes unless it's someone like my grandfather and stuff.

[NJCher]

7. a person just knows

I've had messages from my cat who went to the other side a few years ago. She stays in touch regularly. Just the other day I heard her scratching on the scratching post. When she died, I was distraught and needed to know how it happened. She answered my question about the circumstances of her passing and that satisfied my need to know.

The communications between the two of us could fill a book.

Recently, my brother's cat passed away. The very next night I had a dream in which Puddintain (his name) told me that everything was cool and not to worry. He told me about his new home and how much he loved his new human. He said he found the new home instantly and he showed me all around it. I saw all of this from the kitty vantage point, meaning I was looking at the house from 18" off the floor. He told me he chose his new human based on how much he loved my mother and how much like her she is. Even though I always thought that Pud was my brother's cat, it turns out that he and my mother were very close. I didn't know this; I only found out when my mother expressed her grief to me. I had no idea my mother was so close to Pud.

Once these things are experienced, there is no doubt--none whatsoever--that life continues. You just know. There is no other way of saying it but you just know.




Cher

[Digit]

8. I was reading your deceased cat visiting you regularly

and my cat immediately came to me wanting to be held.
She was diagnosed with malignant mammary cancer this past summer and the vet said the prognosis was not good. About a month ago, I had to have two more tumors removed and she is holding her own. She is on the feline version of prednisone and that is helping...for now.
Anyway, the vet (who is wonderful) said that I would know when the time was to put her down.
It will not be easy, but I won't be able to stand to see her in alot of pain, either.
When the time comes, I will remember what you have said.
Thank you
:hug:

[eek]

9. Our cat visited both of us early Tuesday morning.

First time for either of us since our pal, Ray, died. Just 28 days ago.

These posts are making me cry-ey but in a good way (mostly).

[FreedomAngel82]

20. I'm sorry for kitty

:( :hug: I'll send your little one some reiki.

[woodsprite]

29. My cat did the same in January.

She was my pet from 6wk old to 16 yrs. I was never really a "cat" person, but she acted more like a dog. Slept on her back, growled at the door. Slept with her head on your foot, played fetch. She could purr as loud as a motor.

She had been going downhill for awhile. Hubby and I just couldn't see putting her down - she wasn't in pain and she really wanted to be with us. She didn't like our new house much, hated the carpet in the living room and did not go in there if she could help it. I went in to check on our son, who was sick. Cashmere came in, sat down at my feet and meowed. I picked her up and held her in my arms like a baby. Within two hours, her paws started to feel cold and she started with the catch breaths. She was surrounded by our family and she went to sleep in my arms - breathed out and never breathed back in again.

[FreedomAngel82]

19. Exactly

I also had a strange thing about two years ago with my dog. I had this dog from fourth to seventh grade. He was my best friend and me, him and my brother had some fun times together. One day my Mom went down to fill his bowl of food and water and let him out of his pen to stretch and we found him dead. Never knew what happened but there was a plastic bag in there with him so we think he choked on some. :( I still have his colar with some of his fur on there and toys and blankets and stuff. :( Well about two years ago I was in my room and had this very strong feeling that my dog was now a cat and he was at a local humane shelter and wanted me to come get him. Sadly I still live with my parents and they don't want any more pets. :( I knew ever since I first got my dog (and this was before I was intune and everything) that we have been together before and hopefully we'll be together again. Sounds neat about the experience with your cat. I also had another experience dealing with a cat. I was coming home with my Mom a few years ago (three/four) and we just had been shopping and waiting for the garage door to open (automatic). I was looking out the window of the van and saw this spirit cat! I could tell they were a he and I knew this cat. It might've been my dog. They looked at me with these really sad eyes and I knew they were saying they missed me. It was so sad I wanted to hug him. Than when I blinked he was gone. I could still feel him around and following me. I was wondering NJCher, do you do pet communications?

[NJCher]

10. we both received messages

When our cat Bitsey died, both my husband and I were devastated. We had loved her so. She was my first cat.

One night after dinner, I told my husband about the signs she'd been sending me. My husband is quite psychic himself. He then told me stories of how she'd been contacting him, too. He didn't know how to tell me these stories but when I told him about mine, he told me what he'd experienced. We cried together that night, telling our stories.

In one situation, he was sitting in the home office of a former business associate. The business associate's daughter came into the office. A 13-year old girl who has her own computer in another part of the house, she came into the office and brought up a picture of a cat who looked identical to our Mitzi. The girl said nothing; she just brought up the picture and then left.

Mitzi had a few distinctive markings and other characteristics that made her different. This picture, of which we do not know the origins, was exactly like her. There never was an accounting for why the young girl came into the room and pulled up that particular picture.

Shortly thereafter, my husband was standing by a tree in our front yard. This tree has a U-shape in a branch and Bitsey would often sit there. Sometimes she would tear up the tree like a maniac and make us laugh. Then she would venture down, carefully. We would laugh at that, too: a lot easier to go up than come down. On this occasion, he sensed her sitting in the U and right after that, the branches on the tree began to shake, as if something were tearing up the tree. He knew instantly who that was.

Only a week after her death, the two of us were outside working on gathering leaves. I saw our shadow on the pavement and in the shadow was Bitsey, rubbing against my husband's leg, her big fluffy tail upright in a curl. I didn't see Bitsey herself, just the shadow. It felt as natural as could be; just as if she were there in this dimension.

It is coming up on the third year anniversary of her death, so I guess I am remembering for that reason.

I am so sorry about your kitty, digit. I wrote these additional stories for you.

I often think of myself as having three cats instead of two. I have two in this dimension and one in the other!





Cher

[Cleita]

11. I had a dream about my cat Maggie after she died.

Maggie had been left in a cardboard box in my husband's convertible. He had left the top down and he almost threw the box away, but decided to look inside it. She was so young, I estimated that she was about ten days old. So I became her surrogate mother, bottle feeding her, every few hours even in the middle of the night and helping her to do her bodily functions until she became old enough to do them herself. She lived to be fifteen and my husband came home from work one day and found her dead. He buried her before I got home to save me the grief, but I regretted not being there with her in her last hours.

About a week later I dreamt about her. I found myself in a beautiful house with a stairway of polished wood. The dream was so real I could feel the texture of the polished wood bannister. The room the staircase was in was very large with french windows opening to the outdoors. Since there was no furniture in the house, I sat on the stairs. Then she came down the stairs and got into my lap. I petted her while she purred. Her fur felt very soft, very real, like it always had. Then she abruptly jumped off my lap and trotted up the staircase. Then something woke me up.

I told my husband about the dream and he smiled saying, "Are you telling me that Maggie is now living in her own mansion"? It sure seemed like it was so. I told him it didn't have any furniture, but he remarked that a cat wouldn't really need any furniture.

[Digit]

14. Cher, that was so sweet of you

I realize I am disconnecting my emotions when I speak of her impending death and her appearance still allows me to be in denial.
Just the same, I know what is coming. I have never experienced the death of a pet beyond pet turtles.

Of course, I did lose my dad this past April, but I expect that is different than a beloved pet who has always loved you with unconditional love. It is difficult to put into words, but maybe it is due to their defenselessness.

I will not keep her beyond her time, or let her be in severe pain.
Just knowing that they "live on" is very comforting, even if she never comes for a visit. Before coming to DU, and coming to this Group, I never realized animals lived on.

[FreedomAngel82]

23. Animals do live on for sure

They do have spirits but they're just different from us in some ways. In a lot of ways we're the same with emotions and the like. I've seen spirits of animals before so I know they do go on. :hug: Just have faith in that and we'll see them again. My dog died when I was in seventh grade but I always knew we had some sort of connection since I first saw him at the pound and had to have him. I later found out through my guides that we've been together for centuries. So I know I'll see him again. Just call for your little one and they'll come to you when they can and they'll know the best way to come to you.

[nadinbrzezinski]

31. That is the way I feel about Tuki

our cockatiel, he is 18 and there is a special bond between him and me... and yes he is getting on in years

[japple]

24. When my cat, Noodle, was ready to go, she came to me and started

patting my face very gently with her paw. We rescued her in her kittenhood from some abusive children and although she was very attached to us, she was never a lap cap and hated being picked up. But when she was diagnosed with cancer, the vet, as well as my sister, told me that "when she is ready to go, she'll let you know." It was in January, and we had a blizzard with so much snow that we couldn't drive the car up the hill to our house. Noodle got on the back of the sofa, just behind my head and started purring very loudly and patting my face with her little white mitten. I knew what she was asking me to do, so after communing with her for awhile, I put her in her carrier and walked down the hill in 2 feet of snow to take her to the vet. Fortunately, the weather had turned beautiful, the sun was shining and the highway was clear. The vet's office was a mile down the road, and Noodle's little body died peacefully. For months afterwards, I felt her warmth and heard her purring loudly behind my right ear. Many times at night, I feel the presence of little "ghost" cats jumping up onto the bed and walking around a bit before they settle down. I've always wanted a houseful of cats and, in a way, I guess I do.

[FreedomAngel82]

21. What a wonderful story of your kitty

I cried. :( Sounds like a great cat. :cry: I remember an old friend of mine had this little kitty that really warmed up to me whenever I was at my friends house. I have no idea why. But he was so sweet. LOL, my friend and another friend always teased and said the little guy was my boyfriend. LOL.

[yellowdawgdem]

12. that's an interesting post,

Cleita. I have had 2 recent brushes with death, but neither involved any contact with the other side. 1 was a few years ago, I almost drowned in some high current- and the other was last month on 9/25, I was almost killed in a car crash. All I was really aware of in both instances, was a tremendous drive to stay alive, and anger at having such little control over these circumstances. However, I have had numerous friends who have passed, mostly from cancer or aids or 1 person had lung failure. And I often feel their presence, though usually cannot catch any specific messages.
I have also gotten lots of visual/auditory images of my grandmother, I sometimes hear her voice, or feel that she is trying to convey something. It seems that the harder I try to understand, the less relaxed I become, thereby losing the connection altogether. That, also, can be frustrating.
Also with cats, I lost a cat to a car crash this summer. And for a long time, I continually experienced her presence. I kept hearing her little jingle bell on her collar, or other familiar noises that she often made. Now that some time has passed, I do not feel her presence that often, but only occasionally. I hope that means she is doing well, is happy. I was, for quite some time, worried about her (probable) physical trauma before she passed.

[FreedomAngel82]

22. Aw

I also have discovered that if you try too hard and you're not relaxed and open that it will become harder. Things just tend to happen at the right moment. Sometimes spirits come for a specific time and purpose and than they leave. With them they don't have time like we do. It sounds like to me with your little cat that she was making sure you were doing okay emotionally and wanted you to know that she is doing fine. That's the sense I get from reading about it. If you ever miss your little cat just try getting some a lone time and calling for her. I'm sure she'll come when she can. :hug: Same with the people you've lost. Since my grandfather died back in July I have had a few visit's from him here and there. Mostly when I really, really miss him he comes by and tells me everything is okay. I know he's with my grandmother since I sense him the strongest when she's around or I'm visiting her so that's nice to know. :) It's still hard since he hasn't been gone that long. :(

[yellowdawgdem]

25. I know,

it's really true about the relaxing part. So impt, and sounds easy but actually isn't. I agree that things do happen when the timing is right, but there again, I've found that, for me, it is usually when I've partially let go of something. Or when I'm not thinking about it too much, anyway. I don't know how that is for others, it would be interesting to hear abt.
I think you are right abt my little one probably trying to let me know she is ok, and at the same time soothing me a bit, from the loss. It's funny how cats have a shorter life span than we do, yet some live fairly long- 15-20 years. While others do seem to come in for a shorter time. She always did feel like a free spirit. It's good that you can feel the presence of your grandparents, as I would imagine that might take some time to deal with. Sounds like you were very close.

[arikara]

26. I had a near death experience

during some minor surgery. I remember going into the light and being so happy. My younger brother who had passed over a couple of years previously met me and told me that I had to go back because Jennifer needed me. (my daughter), so I left. When I woke up, the medical people were all hovering around and they were acting very relieved.

They never did tell me what happened and I never told them what happened either. But I am not afraid of dying anymore.

[Quakerfriend]

27. arikara, I'm so glad you stayed for your daughter.

Your experience reminds me of one of my favorite books on the subject, "Life After Life" by Raymond Moody.

"Closer to the Light" by Paul Perry was also very good.

[arikara]

28. Thank you, I'm glad I stayed too...

she really did need me as it turns out, aside from being too young to lose her mother. She was in a car crash a couple of years later and had a head injury and was in a coma for some weeks. She had many years of rehab and recovery, but she recovered wonderfully. I think it was in our soul contracts to go through it all together.

[nadinbrzezinski]

30. I had one when I was a young kid

I had knee surgery, and had a bad reaction to the anesthesia, as in a very bad reaction. To this day I have to remember to tell doctors about it... my mom was told I was very sick...

Well I never asked back then but I know I met my grand parents, never met them in life for I was born in one case well after they were dead. Many years later I described my maternal grandma to my mom... and my mom was shocked, for I dsecribed her as she was as a young woman... not as the woman who died months before I was born.

That has made me pretty unafraid of death quite frankly... it is part of a natural cycle... and no I did not have any clue about it until many years later when I watched a program. Yes there are good scientific explanations as to why there is a tunnel and all of that (brain shutting down) it is the rest that had me going hmm...

[Chovexani]

32. I almost died when I was 11

At summer camp, I was in the mandatory swimming class (it was mandatory for me because I failed the swim test miserably). When the time came for me to take the swim test again, I inadvertantly veered into a deeper part of the lake, and once I realized what had happened my body shut down in panic and I started drowning. Counselor was on hand, of course, and he pulled me out but I was knocked out for a few minutes.

I never saw "the light" or tunnels or any of that stuff that people usually go on about when talking about near-death experiences. I don't really remember a lot of it. The only thing I do remember is a very strong floral scent. It's difficult to put into words, really. It was like the scent of a meadow on a spring day. It was like nothing I've ever smelled, before or since. Just beautiful and peaceful. It was a "hint" of something, if you will...but I got a strong feeling that it was something I wasn't supposed to feel yet. I wasn't supposed to be there, wherever "there" was. And as soon as that feeling hit me, I woke up.

In the years since I've come to believe that it was the Elysian Fields. At the time it happened I was still nominally a born again Christian, but had a very strong interest in Greek mythology since I was able to read, and the imagery always resonated very strongly with me. I think the flower field (and I've always thought of it as such, despite having not actually "seen" anything of it, just the scent) was the Elysian Fields, that it was my subconcious' way of interpreting the experience, giving it a framework my mind and spirit could understand.

This is the first time I'm sharing this with anyone, btw. I've never felt comfortable discussing it in the past.

[arikara]

33. That's not uncommon either

apparently people's belief systems at the time of the event can be what they are "programmed" to remember when they wake up from a near death experience.

From what I understand, if someone winds up at the gates of Nirvana before their time, they are greeted by loved ones and allowed to look over their Akashic records. They can then decide whether it is ok to stay or if they need to go back and fulfil their soul contract. If they do go back they are left with a small but meaningful memory of Nirvana. For me, it was the joy of being in the light and seeing my brother who I missed dearly. For you, it was the beauty, peace and essence of flowers and Greek mythology.